So, I’m 29y, lives in Florida and I’m a first time mom with a man that I’m completely confused and he is so annoying emotionally. Sometimes he is happy and most of the time he is so mean. I walk on eggshells non stop. Anything upset him. For example, this morning I asked him to spend more times with me and the baby on his day off, he got mad and hit the wall and said that I annoyed him. 😒
Then I will just disappear in the room with the baby.
He comes few hours later like nothing happened. Asking me if I need anything 😅. Then same day, I told him I got a call for a job interview. He got mad at me because it’s at oncology floor ( I’m a RN). While few weeks ago he was mad at me for not working and not participating in the finance of house…
Same day early morning, I asked him to help me with the baby, because I need a break juste give me 5 min of extra sleep and you take care of her… he got mean and said “ you don’t work so you stay with her 24h this is your role”. Anyway… I have so many examples of confusions. On the top of this, his mom is a horrible person. She likes to control. So I cut her from my baby and my life because when we were living with her it was HORRIBLE. Her son and I were arguing very hard because she will say one thing to him and other thing to me. Anyway, I’m thinking to leave once I get comfortable with my job.
What can I do ? Should I stay or leave ? I’m taking care of my baby alone with or whitoit him I’m fine honestly at this point he showed me that I can handle her without him. But if I divorce it means she will spend times with him and his family sometimes. :/
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Some questions... do you believe this can be fixed? Do you want it to be fixed, or are you done? If you believe it can be fixed, maybe try marriage counseling. If you dont, then seek out a good lawyer... expensive but worth it. Do what is best for you and your daughter! If you think there is a safety risk with his family or him, I would bring that up to a lawyer and see what can be done about your concerns. In the meantime, document everything.

He sounds so difficult to live with omg! You’re allowed to set boundaries for spending time with family but it sounds like there’s some domestic violence going too with how QUICK he gets angry over basically nothing, if this has happened consistently and you’ve tried everything to make it work then leave. Trust me you’ll be at so much peace bc I’ve been there and done that but it seems like he isn’t cooperating or changing his ways even with a baby for him to hit a wall is just childish, throwing tantrums like that in front of your child 🤦🏻♀️

He sounds like he'd give me a massive headache. You don't need 2 children, you've already got 1. If he can't step up and sort out his moods or whatever, then he can step out and close the door. He needs to sort his own issues out...if that's even possible and not just parts of his personality, which doesn't sound attractive. You've enough to deal with. No one wants a moody man child

From someone who has just left a dv relationship, I wish I had left earlier.. I have a 4 and 2yo and they are now at an age where they are not coping without him even though he was horrible to them and me infront of them. They love him because he’s their dad, but they were also scared of him. If he’s hitting you on the face what’s going to happen when your little one grows up and he gets angry at her? I know it’s hard because they play the nice guy then you fall back into the trap, honestly you and your baby deserve so much more 💜 I also have no family where I am and it’s tough but we’re getting by, the house is so much calmer and we are so happy!
Girls I LEFT ON CHRISTMAS!!!
So I was pregnant of few weeks. And on Christmas Eve, we got into an argument over his mom AGAIN. So anyway, what happened is he threw me on the ground out of NOWHERE and was about to box my face I pushed him with my legs and screamed. Our baby was in the same room and she screamed out of fear. I ran away then he attempted to throw a plastic bottle to me. I ran outside of the house and called police. Filed for DV, they arrested him. I left his house with the baby the same night and went to a friend house then I flew to my country. I bled after the incident. I think I’m doing a miscarriage. But if not I have planned an abortion for next week. I feel bad for this but I feel already RELIEVED. My BRAIN isn’t listening anymore to his ABUSE words and I m not anymore worry about BS.
Thank you !!!!