Visitors HELP

Daughter is 4. For about 9 months she has slowly been less accepting of family, husband and nanny. By pushing them out of the lounge, where she plays. This has now extended to visitors! Literally wouldn’t let her auntie in the house.

Doesn’t do it to me, so I sense it’s attachment? But happily goes to nursery? She is very literal I’d say, so I sense this has become a sort of ritual?

She literally pushes them, with her whole body. Interesting she is fine with them at their house? But is okay with people like speech and language therapist who come to the house. We honour her requests but now I feel it’s havibf such an impact as we can’t have visitors and I am not able to go to work as she won’t have her nanny here for childcare! Well she will but not in same room so I am obviously not able to leave!

With my husband she is mostly fine with him now but… if she gets upset or frustrated she pushes him out and only wants me, I keep hoping it’s a phase but it feels like it’s becoming embedded.

Unrelated but I sense it started around potty training but it’s gotten more frequent anf more intense!

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Am i the only one?

Hi Mums, this is the first time i will be openly speaking about this because ive been trying to push it back or hide it but i need to know if this is normal?

My baby boy is almost 7 months ols. We had a really difficult time in NICU for a week when he was born and i was also in the hospitalbed. I feel like since im home i havent been able to to complety chill the fuck out. I am always on alert, i feel like i cant rest. I have no friends or family here. My baby is exclusively breastfed and will not drink outside of his bedroom so when we go outside i always have to rush to get back home when he cries. The furthest ive been is 10 mins from home. Havent sat down at a cafe or restaurant. Just shops like sainsbury and b&m. I feel like my everyday is the same routine. Wake up play with him have a walk for a bit go shops and come home put him to bed, clean and sleep. I dont have time to make myself look nice. When will my life be normal? Im so scared this is my life now. I have no one to talk about this. I cant imagine going to the city centre with him it will be madness. Please, does anyone else have a similar situation? HELP. xx a really tired exhausted mum.

I peaked 😔

I got really angry at my 4 year old, threw the tooth brush and stormed out of the room. He went to bed crying and I didn’t go to him.

He came out of his room crying at one point and begged me to come back, but I sat him on my lap, hugged him and explained I’m too angry to go back into the room to put him to sleep. He begged me crying again over and over, and I just kept saying I loved him, we’re still best friends, but I can’t come back in. He then kicked me, so I shut the door and let him cry himself to sleep.

I know this horrible and I feel like the worst person. I know I’m going to wake up tomorrow with the worst feelings and guilt, but right now, I’m so fucking fed up of this life. Everything is a battle, there is never a time we can just do the thing and today it peaked for me.

Just ranting

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My son is 8 months old and his dad choked me out, then picked me up and dropped me on the ground this morning.. I am so shocked and upset.. it started as an argument and insults.. he pushed me, I hit him he dropped me to the floor and that's when what I stated above happened. All of my family is 22hrs away, I only work once a week, he doesn't give me any money. He is also financially abusive, works literally all the time yet always tells me there is no money.(wouldn't even buy me tampons) I get no help, respect, acknowledgement for all I do in our home and for our son. I was willing to stick with him through everything until this morning. That is my line.. idk what to do. he has always wanted to be a dad and I dont want to take that from him but I just can't do this.. any advice helps a lot.. ty🙃

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I’m laid here typing this and I’m not sure if I’m more fuming or upset. We have a new baby who is 3 months old and an older child. It’s Easter Sunday and in a few hours the kids will be waking up. My husband thought it would be a great idea to arrange a meal out with his family and get absolutely shit faced. We eventually got home around half past midnight. I then had to put the kids to bed and sort out the egg hunt, all the Easter hunny stuff and blow up the balloons etc, bunny feet trail etc all alone. He went to bed and threw up all over the bathroom. I’ve just spent 20 minutes stripping the bed after he’s thrown up again in bed and then out the pissing window! It all down the side of the house, all over the outdoor window sill and down the kitchen window, window sill and outdoor sofa! I’m literally SEETHING!!!!!!!!! We’ve got people coming round at 10am and a roast dinner to cook.
Not sure why I’m posting. I think I just needed to vent. He’s been so pissing selfish!!!!!!

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Before I had my son I loved to drink smoke and party I would do the craziest things I would fight people for smallest reasons I was just super immature but I’ve become I completely different person since I don’t do any of the things I used to do and I feel like I have no one anymore and even if I am invited I sit there just not fitting in anymore and everyone just says I’m a goodie two shoes now and I don’t want the life I had before but I miss feeling like I belonged with my family and friends even sometimes I feel like my man thinks I’m boring now too but I work and take care of my son 24/7 so I’m not always in the mood to go do anything I’m a nurse assistant after changing ass and getting yelled at 12 hours a day for 4 days I sometimes just wanna sit at home and watch tv or whatever but no one wants to just sit at home and watch tv but me idk if you’ve read this far thank you i don’t know where I was going with this just ranting about it all