Negativity around life after baby is born

I've also experienced this too. I think it depends who the information is coming from because I think a lot of women have struggled and not had support, and it has had a negative effect on their lives. But I also believe a lot of women like to play victim and like to complain, and some women have lower resiliency levels or life experience than others. Everyone is different and so I'm brushing all the comments off and I will find out for myself just what it's like when my little one arrives! And if it's awful then at least I can laugh and say 'they tried to warn me!' 🤣 but I don't believe in getting anxious or worried about things until they've happened. When I need help I'll reach out then, I'm not worrying about it now. I can't exactly go back and undo the pregnancy so I don't understand why people have to say negative things 🤣

Misery loves company and you’ll often find those who had a bad experience during their motherhood journey like to pass that trauma onto others too, almost like a badge of shit solidarity. They think it’s funny with their offhand comments, but reality is it can be extremely offensive and hurtful.

I’ve heard them all from:
“Wait until she starts walking then you’ll see!”
“Good luck getting any sleep for next 15 years!”
“Wait until she’s 2, then you’ll know about why it’s called the terrible 2’s!”

And yet my daughter has slept through the night since 3wks. When she started walking it was just another milestone. The 2’s were a breeze. Don’t get me wrong, there are always challenges, but having that constant negativity in the background is unhelpful. Ignore the comments and enjoy your baby. Everyone does motherhood differently, no need to carry other people’s trauma for no reason.

I've heard this been said. Not sure why people like to provoke fear in new moms in this way.
Yes of course is is challenging at times & you may go through a period of rediscovering yourself. But it's not impossible.
But just you wait for those amazing moments with your baby, the cuddles, when they start smiling, giggling, grabbing your face, meeting their milestone and growing up, making memories with them, watching them make a sweet old ladies day with their cuteness. ❤️ just you wait 🫶🏼

This was and still remains my biggest frustration as when I was pregnant the negativity of 'ohhh wait till this that and the other' and I'm still hearing the same wait till this that and the other now she's 2. No one ever seems to have that much enthusiasm in telling us about any of the positives of parenthood when becoming a first time parent! Everyone has their own journey, challenges and experiences and yes of course a baby will change our lives, that statement alone doesn't need someone to state the obvious that our priorities will change.. Just enjoy your baby and your new life when that time comes, I just waited until my girl arrived and we went on our journey blocking out the negativity and I told and still tell myself no stage will last forever and they won't stay a baby forever and personally I think that mentality has helped me embrace and not lose sight of all the positives of motherhood and not lose sight of myself as I wanted to become a mother x

They’re speaking from experience, but also is not their place to say at all! Thats not fair. Especially to be saying it to a first time mum, this gave me anxiety! You will grow to be a family. And it will be the best thing to happen to you, you just adjust x

Seems to me that they are jealous they don't have a baby .Protect yours at all cost . Even if you have to cut people off it's not worth it.Misery loves company and don't let them take you in. I've been away my whole pregnancy and plan to be after as well. When people don't know how to treat you wait until the baby comes out and you'll really see.