First Time Mom Transitioning to being a Single Mom

Single mamas, how did you do it?

Hi, I am a ftm with a precious baby girl. My ex fiancé left us a couple of months ago. I feel like I’ve been barely keeping my head above water. I’m filled with rage and sadness. I have my mom to help us but her cup is truly running empty. I don’t know what else to do, I don’t know how to heal, I don’t know how to ask for help. I would appreciate some much needed advice on how to build a village of people who can actually help me through this.

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How old is your child? Sorry you’re going thru this. It gets easier I promise!

I went through something similar at 4 months and didn’t think I would survive. My milk supply dropped so much bc I couldn’t eat. I relied on therapy and close friends as much as I could. Really just have to go day by day and keep going for your babe and self

Oh that’s great to hear! I’m glad you’re finding your groups. I can’t imagine moving somewhere with no support after a baby.

Giving myself ALOT of grace and starting a gratitude journal. Acknowledging the smallest things in my life has made a huge difference. I definitely have my days where I hate the universe for allowing things to happen the way it did but my gratitude journal helps me reflect to how lovely life is

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Did I overreact?

I have had 3 c sections, recently had a wisdom teeth removal (4) to be exact and all my mom did was visit the day BEFORE and then she only sent 1 text. She has NEVER spent one full day with me and doesn’t acknowledge my achievements much. She just isn’t there when I need her to be. She claims she’s always working but she lives like 7 minutes away! she can come help with the kids so my husband can have break? we don’t ask her for much and she only sees the kids 1-2 a month. She also didn’t visit with my last c section. I told her that she should’ve gotten the abortion when she had the chance with me because why would you have me and neglect me emotionally? To not actually give me a present father in my life. I am very angry all she does is disappoint me. She only wants to show up for certain people in the family and I just want to grab her and shake her and ask her why can’t she be a good present mother?

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Any advice or just shared stories would help. I’m so torn between carrying on because I enjoy the feeding side of it or switching to formula.