Is watching porn without your spouse knowing cheating?

Depends on your relationship, everyone will say differently.

For some it is, for some it isn’t.

I would say the majority of peanut would say it's not but I think that it's dependent on the couple individually and not the opinions of many.

It depends on the relationship & boundaries. I don’t want my fiance to watch porn I don’t see the need in it? It’s all fake. It’s better to explore with each other imo

Well im a christian so my view on this may be different than most. I don’t think it is the same level of cheating as in someone getting into another relationship & investing in someone else where they are playing you.

But if they know the spouse does not like porn and they are secretly doing that then they are cheating in a way where they are getting pleasure without their spouse. It’s a more selfish type of pleasure. Since sex in marriage is about bonding, about two people being selfless with each other. A mutual respect.

But some people do struggle with porn addictions and such. I think often times people are also not doing it with the intention to hurt their spouse.

Anyway, I don’t want to get too preachy but that is my take on that.
But for some it will not be cheating and they simply don’t see any harm in porn at all.

Honestly depends on your relationship and boundaries, some say yes some say no

I class it as cheating and have had conversation and made that clear to my partner. I don’t see why you need to look at other people whilst in a relationship, you should be satisfied enough with what you’ve got

if you’ve already had a conversation and come to the agreement that watching porn is cheating then yes, if you haven’t discussed it or have and decided that it isn’t then it isn’t.

I’ll give a little background we’re long distance and I’ve expressed that I don’t want him watching porn when I can send him stuff (which I have in the past). We agreed anything that we have to hide from the other or don’t tell the other is considered cheating. I’m almost 8m pregnant and we’ve only had sex 1 times because he claims he doesn’t feel comfortable having sex rn. He’s watched porn 1 time since I’ve been pregnant (since we found out in June) and 4 other times this year. I’ve been asking to have sex frequently but he’s never in the mood.

In our relationship porn is okay both ways and isn’t considered cheating BUT if you are paying for it than that is different and I would consider it ‘cheating’.

I think watching porn is cheating. Fantasizing and lusting after other women? Research shows that it is detrimental in relationships. That’s not an opinion 🤷🏼‍♀️ However, people have different views on this, and all that matters is the boundaries that you have in your own relationship. Your boundaries with your partner are all that matter, other people’s input on those boundaries don’t matter at all. Whether it’s cheating or not is dependent on each individual couple. And also, what type of relationship they have. A good friend of mine is in a polygamous relationship, and neither porn nor having sex with other people is considered cheating. All depends :)

My husband and I are both okay with porn. Don’t consider it cheating in our relationship. But…

If you guys said it was cheating, then it’s cheating. If he is breaking your trust with this, he will other things.

Same comment as always.
To me personally, no. Paying for it, seeking out someone specifically, that’s cheating IN MY EYES. Your boundaries are YOUR boundaries and if that’s a line for you, he needs to respect that as a partner or you need to be aware he’s going to break boundaries and doesn’t care to consider your feelings as a partner, in this instance over needing to jerk off to something other than what you’ve sent or are willing to🤷🏼‍♀️ who knows what it’ll be next. Or maybe it’s just this… but forever. Ya know never once letting them break “promises”/agreements

Imo it depends on your relationship and your views on it. I think it's a problem if it gets in the way of your relationship and sex life but I don't think it's cheating.

I clicked yes by accident but I meant no. I wouldn’t class it as cheating but I do think it’s disrespectful doing that behind your partners back without them knowing. Definitely something I would say needs spoken about before hand

Will never understand getting off to other women/men when I have a partner myself. Hey if I’m horny then I go to my partner and have fun time with them not get off to someone else. My partner is the same. We spend every waking minute together and he doesn’t watch porn. He’s a very happy and satisfied man. Never glances at other women when walking down the street together, always looking at me.

I say yes only bc I told him we can watch it together or to at least tell me if he’s gonna watch it. I also spent thousands to have boudoir pictures done, and he has nude Polaroids of me so why does he need to see other girls? He also has home videos of us on his phone so if he needs porn after everything he has, clearly there’s something in not giving him and instead of communicating that he’s searching for it elsewhere which I think is not okay

Yes. I don’t see why a man that is in a committed relationship with me needs to be looking at other women sexually at all. Pure disrespect

If you have already discussed that you aren’t comfortable with it then yes. That’s 100% cheating if he knows you don’t want him to

For me it’s definitely cheating, it’s known scientifically that porn is addictive to the brain, also it robs intimacy with your partner. Sex should be for partners to bond and enjoy time with eachother. Watching another woman will only train the brain to like variety imo. So satisfaction with your SO will fade. So no thanks to that poison.

For clarification of my comments, I find it controlling if you were pretending to be okay with it when they were just a boy friend. But when they become a fiancé or whatever you move your standard, without including them, and make it an ultimatum. I don’t think that would go well for anyone, our side or theirs 👎🏼🤷🏼‍♀️

its always cheating

I personally don’t think it is but I do get why some women think otherwise. I don’t pass judgement on women that think it’s weird

If its free it is not cheating but I feel like spending money on it especially things like OF is cheating

I told my partner at the very beginning of our relationship if he’s getting off by another person it’s cheating. So yes in my opinion watching porn is cheating.