No contact

I have been in no contact with my in laws for about a year and a half. Is it ok if I refuse to let my kids see them? They’ve never met the baby-and they never ask about the kids ever. Husband has just recently started talking to them. I don’t want to talk/see them again as they were so awful (still are). I’m ok if he wants to but I don’t want my kids to see them. Is that so bad? Please be kind x

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No it’s not bad. But tell your partner you don’t want yourself or your kids involved. It’s fine if he chooses to have communication with them but it doesn’t automatically mean it’s fine for you to be expected to see them or put your kids in a position you’re uncomfortable with. Stay strong with your boundaries and don’t let them pressure you into seeing them. You don’t owe anyone anything. You got this

Absolutely okay to refuse.. they are your babies.. anyone who can treat you like dirt dont get access to your children. Period. Your choice who has access to them.
I told my partner our son isnt seeing his parents due to the same reason. He didnt like it.. i actually changed my mind to be the bugger person, turns out they dont want to make any effort with myself or my baby..(im thrilled) they just want to focus on my partners other child .

It's not bad and a sign of a good mom. Hopefully your partner is supportive and understanding to your reasoning.

It’s not bad. We are no contact too with my in-laws. They haven’t seen my 3 year old since before she turned one and has never met my baby. We don’t plan on ever letting them meet but my husband also can’t stand them so we wouldn’t be seeing them anyway

Wow thanks everyone! I didn’t expect these nice understanding comments. I thought i was going to be told I’m in the wrong!

I think you have every right to stop them from seeing them but just from personal experience when your children are old enough and want to see their grandparents dont stop them and let them find out for themselves what they are like, I resented my mum not letting me see my nan (dad's mum) he walked out when my mum was 5 months pregnant with me and my nan said if my dad didnt want to see me she dont, I still blamed my mum when I was 13 she allowed me to meet my nan and everything my mum said was true and it really helped me to stop thinking she wanted nothing to do with me because she was a horrible lady I know its different situation but when there older if they want to just allow them but for now you control who they see

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Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Saying NO to buying toys etc

5 year old is getting really envious of others. He is obsessed with items that other kids have at school. I am pestered daily to buy these things in a different style when we already have 3 others. I have seen parents just buying stuff their kid likes which I don't necessarily agree with even when i can afford it. How do you deal with it?

Thoughts?

your soon to be brother in law (upon inquiry) told you that only a few kids from the family were attending his wedding because they are over the age cut off..

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Debating getting her a tablet or dvd player right now on long car rides I end up giving her my phone because I get so overwhelmed sitting in between both of them screaming and crying.

And yes I do bring different toys I bring snacks I play songs try to distract her other ways but for the sake of not losing my mind on this move I think this is best.

-A very overwhelmed and anxious to move mama 😓

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