Self settling help

I need some advice because I feel like we’ve tried everything. My 5 month old wakes every hour at night and not matter how many times we try he is struggling to self settling and has to feed to sleep or sometimes holding him rocking and shushing works for we can’t put him down awake and he can’t get himself back to sleep

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Babies arent able to self settle, its not biologically normal. I know its super hard but this is normal baby behaviour. Is there a problem with feeding him to sleep? I did this for over 2 years with my son and it never caused us any problems. X

5 months is still quite young. I’d wait till 6-8 months tbh.

I know how frustrating and overwhelming this can be but some babies just aren’t able to do it that young, so please don’t put pressure on yourself to “fix it”. Mine was around 7 months when she no longer needed fed to sleep and that’s when the hourly wake ups changed to 3-4 hours. Even now at 14 months she still needs rocked to sleep most nights. We have tried everything but I just see it as I’m her safe space and there will be a day when she no longer needs me so I’m going to try and enjoy the sleepy cuddles for now 💕

Try white noise and comforter. Also my son I started him on solids from 4 months as not full from milk and when he started solids (once a day) he sleeps much better 9pm-9am x he use to wake up a lot before started him on solids x

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