How do you feel when your toddler has tantrums?

Normal part of development. I feel ours have got worse she’s turned 2😂
We’re now in the stage of she wants to do what she wants and if she can’t do that, she’ll boot off.

People shouldn’t feel the need to stick their 2 pence in. Really grates on me. Children are children, there shouldn’t be a social standard that they should be quiet when outside.
Personally I would have stopped the person who said “ridiculous”. In my opinion what’s ridiculous is that grown adults think children shouldn’t be expressing their emotions. Especially when they don’t have the vocab of an adult 🥲

Mine started throwing tantrums out of nowhere around when he turned two. The tantrums getting into the car seat lasted for maybe 2-3 months but felt like a year. It’s all about bodily autonomy- they can’t tell you but they want to be the ones to put on or take off their own clothes. To choose when to go inside. Once you can figure out what they are likely to want to do or choose for themselves it’s a lot easier to manage and predict and stop the tantrums before they start. Now getting into the car unless I’m in a rush is letting my 2 year old climb in and then letting him buckle the top by himself. It’s letting him choose which shoes and pants to wear and if he wants to put them on or take them off on his own. You just have to build in extra time for everything.

this is exactly what I was going to say
This age is “I know what I like and what I don’t want” and often giving an option is the way to make them feel in control
“We are going outside now do you want to hold mamas hand and walk to the car or do you want mama to carry you?” Even if their vocab is limited at this age to reply they can point or show you the key is to get the options in prior to a kick off because there’s often no going back once a tantrum ensues

Oh yes and the person who negatively commented
You are the ridiculous one sticking your nose in and commenting on a baby’s behaviour - who is the emotionally immature one here ? So rude

If I ever get a comment outside I loudly reply “that’s so rude” or “some people are so rude”

One time baby was upset and tired so cried in a coffee shop so I got an old woman staring at me
I calmly got my cover out and BF my then 9 month old and she actually tutted at me ! I said “I’m sorry can I help you ? Do we know eachother???” She went bright red

I actually find it very easy to disconnect from my toddler's tantrums, idk why. I think it has something to do with knowing that the key is to always keep my cool and remain calm. Tantrums are emotional dysregulation, and it's my job, as the parent, to be my child's regulation when she is lost. That means staying calm and in control. I focus on the situation - what can I do to help? Anything? If I can't, then I do my best to just be there and comfort her. If she's overtired or hungry, I try to accomodate that. If she just doesn't like a rule that I've made, I remind her it's ok to not like the rules and to be mad, but they don't change.

Talking a lot can actually make tantrums worse - they don't understand or hear you when they are dysregulated. They may just need emotional connection - physical presence and comfort. You don't have to say much at all. And ignore any negative comments - people either get it or they don't. Toddlers are going to cry. I used to get mildly irritated,, now I get it.