Angry spouse

Honestly would not take that lightly. Any man willing to "joke" about abuse, will commit or has committed abuse before. Imagine him saying that to your child, except worse. If you're not able or willing to leave now, I'd have a big coming to Jesus discussion with him about how that's not funny, not to threaten and next time, it will and can be used against him, in the ...whatever whatever, (unless you're in a place that doesn't have laws pertaining to that). Also, why is he able to be a dick wipe and you're not allowed to call him out? Why does he feel comfortable saying this, in front of your child?

There’s a very good chance he will end up following through with that threat. It sounds like he hasn’t hit you before, which means you have time to think more clearly through the “what if”s. My husband is a very gentle soul, but I still let him know early on- if he ever hit me or threaten me, I’d leave him and take whatever child or children we had. Domestic violence is an absolute dealbreaker for me. You have to decide if it is for you and what you’d do if he actually followed through.

His threat was unacceptable full stop.
Thst said I’m amazed you expect to watch a film uninterrupted with a toddler in the room so I can see why your oh might have been irritated.

Trying to watch a whole entire movie, with a toddler awake, is a recipe for disaster.

But it is not at all okay he threatened to hit you and if I were you I would leave over that.

I'll be the devil's advocate here and say that maybe if English isn't his first language, making a threat like that might sound normal to him, and might not be meant totally literally (like he might be translating a cultural phrase that sounds worse than it is--think "scared to death" or "hungry enough to eat a horse"--there might be some hyperbole in what he said).

That being said, I think getting upset over a movie is pretty ridiculous, unless there was something more going on.

It is never okay to threaten to hit your child or partner.

He’s switching up on you. Be careful.

Uh?!? I’d be fucking concerned and let him know if he ever even THREATENED tha again let alone ACTUALLY DO IT I’d leave his ass faster than he can land the hit, honestly the threat alone would make me leave him, I don’t play that shit. Don’t even threaten to put your fucking hands on me.

No no no no no.. your husband cannot threaten you like this full stop. That’s very concerning and you need to talk with him about how he can never ever physically threaten you again. One chance or you’re gone. Make sure you have back up to somewhere you can go if something happens, just make sure there’s a plan incase he gets angry and does something, you cannot live life in fear with a life partner. When you find someone to be with you’re supposed to be eachothers peace. Think things through x