Own room…

Our little one is nearly 9 months old and we still haven’t put him in his own room. I just feel like I waited so long for him to be in our lives, I just don’t want to rush not having him by our side on a night (he’s still small enough for the next to me).

Has anyone else delayed not putting their little ones in their own bedroom? Does it get more difficult to transition the older they are?

I don’t want to make it stressful for all of us the longer I leave it but I just don’t want to rush the growing up 😩

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My kid was in my room until 4 yrs old and now my 11 month old sleeps with me. We all sleep really well

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My kid is 3 in March and still sleeps with me. I don’t hate it tbh. It’s cute.

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15 mo with me, I honestly don't know when he'll move out ❤️

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My months old still sleeping in our room (in his cot) and won't be going into his room any time soon!

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2 year old still wants me every night with him, I don’t mind though he’ll not be 22 still wanting to be in my bed so I’m soaking up these times xxx

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My son is 27 months. Family is supposed to be together on a biological level.

I have a large cot that turns into a toddler bed (up to 6), we have it against the wall and one long side off that directly goes up to our bed.
Our son sleeps on his bed 90% of the night and can come between us if needed and can access me for milk in the night/morning.

My son has 11 hours sleep most nights without waking and my husband and I get 8 hours. I don’t plan to have him in his own room until maybe 4

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My little one (nearly 10 months) is still in bed with me most nights! My husband is desperate to get her into her own room but I'm with you, I really don't see the rush! I'm just looking at it like, one day I'm really going to miss the days when she needs me this much, so I'm making the most of it while I can.

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Mine spends the first part of the night in his own room and the rest in a travel cot on my side of the bed
He’s 11m old and tbh I feel we both sleep better when he’s in the same room as me and we ebf so I’m quicker to tend to him in the night
I’ve no plans on taking the travel cot down any time soon 😆

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My youngest was in my bed let alone my room for almost the first 2.5 years 😆

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My little girl was put in her own room at 7 months old. She loved it as she got older. My son was put in his own room just after he turned one. As we were in the middle of moving home just after his 1st birthday. Personally the younger they are in their own room the easier it is for them. Every child is different though. Some kids transitioning into their own room at an older age find it more difficult, we’re as other kids don’t. All depends on if you feel your little boy is ready or not to be in his own room. I know you don’t want him to grow up so quick. And I miss both my tiny babies. But watching the grow is the beautiful & precious part of being a mum.
And it’s so worth it 🥰

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My little one just turned 2 and still sleeps with us

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