I hope I don’t get too much negative judgement but I am wondering if anyone has any tips or links to videos to watch on how to give my 5 month old baby a bath. Vulnerable disclosure I’m a FTM and giving baby a bath is quite stressful aka I am not all comfortable doing so by myself until this day. As a result I bathe him maybe every two weeks (sponge baths in between). So far I follow all the newborn bath tips and bathe him in our kitchen sink which I clean so so well prior but it’s a lot of work plus I also feel at the mercy of when my partner is available and willing to help. I feel guilty for not feeling confident/comfortable to do it by myself. I feel bad that my baby is obviously still scared because he’s not used to it and prob because he can sense how tense I am during. Anyhow does anyone have any tips? Should I shower with my baby? Buy a small bath tub to do it in our shower? Is there like a baby hose attachment I can buy? I’ve search YouTube, IG (I don’t use tik tok) but have not found anything that helps. any words or encouragement? Does any other mom feel the same? - sorry for the rant
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Hey there, it’s okay to feel nervous they are quite literally still so new to the world; give yourself grace at least you keep him clean sink baths are good sponge baths as well! Even if it’s a good wipe down better than nothing! My advice from a momma of two, the shower is your friend may take away your alone time but it’s easy wash and wipe down, I bought a baby bath with the weighted scale for my son but he quickly outgrew it so I barely was able to use it but once he was able to stand we took showers together… now with my baby girl she’s 5 almost 6 months I have a inflatable bin that was supposed to be used to wash hair has been perfect for her to sit in, it’s like her personal bath jacuzzi… I put hot water in it and then let her sit while I can wash myself her brother and her I’ll take a picture of my set up so you can get an idea but very functional and allows you to be close and at the same time able to get clean it’s bonus if you can throw some baby toys in the bath!

My husband was the same way with our newborn. We used a peribottle. It’s honestly very nerve wracking to give a bath so don’t beat yourself up!

Aaaaaaah…every two weeks is too much tho. check Amazon for the sink bath stuff I remember using it for my first kid since I had complications after the C-section . It’s easier for you since you also utilize the sink for baths. I have showered with my now 6 months old in the shower I first wash myself before I have his sister bring him to me or I put his bouncer in front of the shower
2) Get the sink shower stuff I will check my Amazon for the link and attach it here.
3)buy a small baby tub Amazon(that’s if your shower comes with a Tub 🛀 if it’s a standalone shower 🚿 then that might be difficult also Amazon has the kids shower hose as well.
From your question - I will honestly just get the sink pad till you are very comfortable giving baby a bath in the tub or shower

https://a.co/d/0Yn1skq

As a first time mom, baths can be intimidating friend so don’t feel weird about it ❤️ my son hated baths before we got him a mini tub & a bath thermometer turns out the water just wast the right temp which made him cold and uncomfortable. So that’s where I’d recommend starting. Get a tub that can go in the sink or on the counter or even put it in your bath tub & get a floating water thermometer. Also maybe put on some calming music during bath time! My son loves Olivia dean lol

I'm the same way. My back hurts a lot from all the leaning over during giving my son a bath that I don't feel confident lifting him at the end of the bath.
I use a baby bath tub placed in the shower on a non slip bath mat and use the frida baby hose. There are other hoses on Amazon but the frida baby one is the longest hose I found.
Baby bath tub: https://a.co/d/0UzQiGF
Frida baby hose: https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0DXXH3S2P?ref_=cm_sw_r_cso_cp_apan_dp_M4JE72P2RMNM1YSN4R1E
This set up has given me the most independence with the least back ache.

Hey I struggled with this too and find the filling tub with a little water and allowing baby to lay on his back in the water and kneeling at the tub and washing him that way has worked. He sits up now occasionally you can also sit baby on the floor of the tub while you shower if he’s sitting up already.

It’s okay to be nervous, I was for about the first 3 weeks then I got a hang of it. Try a bath starter kit and ensure the water is 100 degrees and no higher than 105. My child likes the water warm and toasty and he can lay back in this bath and now he’s splashing all over my kitchen sink. Get a dreambaby duck thermostat to monitor the water temp.
https://www.meetlalo.com/products/bathtime-starter-kit?variant=39653215600704&country=US¤cy=USD&utm_medium=product_sync&utm_source=google&utm_content=sag_organic&utm_campaign=sag_organic&tw_source=google&tw_adid=699180412691&tw_campaign=21224711661&tw_kwdid=pla-2431438144555&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=21224711661&gbraid=0AAAAAC_PufoGWDEnHaQAXF9JlxztSw3ex&gclid=Cj0KCQiA9t3KBhCQARIsAJOcR7ybGjQ_ys951qv2GkA7WFmayYlGhNFHcm-h3AYLlCoLbEmSaiyQwX0aAnvDEALw_wcB

As soon as my baby could sit with support I put her in a bath chair and showered with her. She really enjoys it 🥰

I have had two babies I have done this with both of them from when they were verry small and they both love bath time I have a 5year old and a 5 month old. The 5 month old loves her baths and has even started playing with bath toys. I started by showering/bathing with them I even nursed them with the water running on their feet and legs. Then when I did put her in the bath by her self once she was comfortable with the water I put her in her baby tub it has a sling and a seated area like a grow with me kinda thing. When they are in the water by them selfs give them something to play with whether it be a rag or just a light duck. You can sing to them or make lil splashes with your fingers in the water just to get the interest. When you start to pour water on them start low close to the water and move up to the shoulders. I always wash her hair last and when I do I try not to dump water into her face cuz it makes her panic a little so a baby bath cup will help.

Sorry ran out of space and if the baby is comfortable in the kitchen sink then try putting a little water in it and see if he will play in it. It is scary juts remember to breath and take a few deep breaths and go slow at a pace your both comfortable with. You got this. Best of luck

I also was really nervous about baths and did sponge baths in between a lot.
This seat saved me given that my little one is so very very active during bath time. Gettin a good grip was nearly impossible long enough
So I was tense too. This changed the game
Also being in the tub with them. Awesome. You can control everything.
Glad to know I wasn’t the only one
https://a.co/d/hqGvuUh

Oh and sponge baths are perfectly fine
It’s more about acclimating them at this point and making it regular
Their skin is fresh and new and they arent really getting soiled enough to need a full bath daily if they aren’t really being exposed to anything or having a blowout or something
- advice I took from a elder parent of 6

thank you so much ladies for all the support and guidance you provided with this. I will definitely be trying some of your tips. Also thank you so much for sharing with so much kindness and no judgement sadly sometimes this mommy forums sometime come with moms shaming moms.

You are getting lots of recommendations but wanted to share: For sink baths this insert is by far my favorite tub. It fits perfect in almost all kitchen sinks. It helps the baby sit up or lean back and because you are standing with lots of counter space it’s so much easier than tubs you put in a regular bath. It feels more ergonomic which will give you more confidence handling a slightly slippery baby.
Finding confidence doing lots of new things as a FTM is hard. Give yourself grace but also practicing what feels hard will make it easier. Best of luck. I hope you and baby start to get lots of bath time joy in the near future.
https://www.target.com/p/the-first-years-sure-comfort-deluxe-newborn-to-toddler-tub-with-sling-white/-/A-52722826

Thank you so much for sharing this insert and you are so right I know it will take practice and can’t wait until we can both enjoy it.

definitely look into a baby bath tub… they can lay comfortably as you bathe them , my baby is also 5 months and she loves it … but do try to shake the feelings if you can it’s okay i get it but he needs to
get used to bathing or that’ll be another issue you have to resolve.. i bathe my baby at first once a week then as she got bigger around 3 to 4 months i did twice a week.. now at 5 months every second day so like if i did it today tmm no bath the next day bath