What’s the longest you’ve been away from your toddler?

Husband wants to go away for my birthday. He wants to go for the whole weekend. I think I’ll feel better with one night. Do we owe ourselves two nights? Am I over thinking this?!

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There's no right or wrong here - only what you feel comfortable with!

I've never left my kids (5 and 2) for more than one night and they've only been with their dad. But my eldest was born in lockdown and then we've not had anyone we'd trust to look after them for that long.

Doesn't mean anything bad would happen if we did! We fantasise about a weekend away 😆

Longest for me has been 3 nights 4 days. I co parent so I don’t have a choice but it’s really hard at the start. I cried the whole time kept looking at videos of my boy lol. But once you start doing it more often it gets easier and you realllyyyy appreciate it, you feel so refreshed and relaxed and it makes a big difference.

Go with what you’re comfortable with, you could always try one night then in a few weeks/months try two nights.x

9 days and it was glorious. I was 6 months pregnant and needed a holiday so bad. He stayed half and half with each set of grandparents

Myself and my husband went away for one night a couple of months ago. It was so nice to go out for dinner and spend time just us two. My little one stayed with my parents and she didn't bat an eyelid when we left or when we returned 😂

It’s completely up to you! We went abroad for 5 nights but left our son with someone we know he adores and feels secure with (mother in law) he goes to her every Tuesday for the day so used to her house.

We have been away twice for 1/2 nights just a few hours away but it’s so good for your relationship and mental health to have a break every now and again if you want / need to x

I’m a very bad example we managed one long evening for a wedding once
Like from 8 pm to 5 am
I would say you got to do what you are comfortable with otherwise you won’t enjoy it

I’ve had one evening out since he’s been born, but am a solo parent.

My September baby LOVES going on overnights to nanas! At first I hated giving in but she loves it so much that is one thing I’m glad my MIL put pushed me to do. I think we are at 3 weeks is the longest she’s been away and she will video call every day or every other day. The first few times were rough and her bedtime was the hardest as there was suddenly a huge gap in my day but it gets easier. My Oct. 24 baby? Still sleeps in our room and his record? 5 hours and that’s because daddy was still there. I have zero hope of an overnight without him any time soon. It depends on the child (and the mother!) if you really want the weekend trip do a test run beforehand to see how both you and baby do. It’s what I did before my second child was born as I was in hospital a week with my first and needed to know she was going to be ok if she suddenly had to stay with nana. We worked our way up from a night or two to weeks on end. 🥰

I've had a few long work days that I left before he was up and got home after he was asleep but think he realised it was me caring for him when he woke in the night so not sure it that counts as more than a day. We had 1 overnight apart so far which was due to my dad dying. I'm thinking about it for our 10th anniversary in June but I don't think my child can handle it unless he changes a lot by then! He's emotionally v sensitive it has to be me at night and this has gotten worse not better since Feb last year when we had the night apart
Now he can't really cope if I have an evening out and I've had to come back home early from 2025 Xmas parties as he refuses to sleep if Im not there, even after 11pm. He was ok going to sleep with dad for the 2024 Xmas party though so. Getting worse😬

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My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

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