Sleeping in the same room with my partner and baby ?

Hi Nikki,
Just want you to know that you’re not alone and I’m sending you a big hug!!!

Has your partner said that the baby disturbs him too much and he agrees that you should be in the nursery with the baby??? I know you made the decision but he may not actually mind you both staying in the bedroom if he knew how you felt??

My baby is 5 weeks old and my partner has adapted to hearing the brief crying as he understands that I need that support to know that he’s there even if he physically doesn’t help me with feeding or nappy changing.
I’m also a first time mother and it was hard when my partner went back to work. I think it’s a sensitive time for us as our hormones are all over the place and we’re sensitive and emotional so whatever helps us out, we need to do otherwise depression etc sets in and that’s an extra lonely and difficult place to get out of.

Hope this helps a little xx

Hi Nikki,
So sorry you’re feeling this way! I just wanted to reassure you that it does get better…slowly but surely! I slept separately from my husband with our eldest (and am doing the same again this time) and my partner was back in the bed with me from 3 months onwards once baby settled down a bit and I was able to stop cosleeping. I know 3 months sounds ages away (and it may not take this long for you!) but take each day/week at a time and you will get there! Xx

My partner wears earplugs on work nights. We both know i will wake him if I need support.

Having read some of your replies and I think you're putting too much pressure on yourself. And as a lot of us do, take care of other first rather than prioritising yourself.
I would talk with your partner and let him know that you need him. It's completely normal to feel that way.
We all just sleep in the same room and we did the same wirh my first. I actually ended cosleeping with my first and we still do. So in the night my husband often ends up in bed with my toddler. If not, he will have to hear the newborn cry. He often just asks if all is okay and if I need something. Then he goes back to sleep.
Talk with your partner about how you feel! X

Might not be the solution that’s best for you and your partner, but for my husband and I we’re still sleeping in the same bed and some nights he wears earplugs/headphones and has an eye mask when he needs to focus on sleep for work - means I can still give him a nudge if I feel like I need a hand in the night

Hey I sleep alone with baby as my partner has to be up at 5am for work but i do find it lonely but we have cuddles on the sofa before bed but we do need to find the balance. So totally understand what you mean