When do babies start sleeping through the night

Let’s be honest now, when did your baby start sleeping through the night with no sleep training!

All I ever see in tiktok is people sleep training their babies and I fully well know back in the day no one did this and we all sleep through the night now.

I don’t really want to sleep train my 4 month old, he’s not too bad at all, wakes up maybe 3 times for feeds and it is what it is. But it’d be nice to have some idea on when I will get to sleep through the night. I know every baby is different so I’d like to know how old did your babies sleep through the night with no sleep training.

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Honestly he did a couple of random nights of it at 10 months then was poorly we get the odd night now but we’ve still generally got 1 wake up and he’s just turned 1. We tried sleep training. It didn’t work for us, or at least not for very long. He just eventually grew out of the more frequent wakes.
I’m not saying don’t sleep train at all but most methods recommend 6 months at least as at 4 months the are just starting to properly cement circadian rhythm with knowing when it’s night time. Also worth considering that things like pampers sleep coach keep advertising using people like glowmama, she freely admits that it saved her sanity during sleep deprivation however despite sleep training her 1 yr old is currently back to not sleeping through, so sleep training isn’t a magical fix all I’m afraid.

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Also worth considering “back in the day” they would do cry it out. Studies show it doesn’t teach your baby to sleep, it teaches your baby that if they cry their needs will not be met so not to cry. Some studies even suggest this can impact on brain development so for me personally letting him cry was never an option. Honestly we cosleep for months to survive his worst sleep sections when he was completely out of routine

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My baby is 6 months old. Saturday night and Sunday night she slept through. But she did stir and want her dummy a couple of times but she didn't wake for a bottle. Tonight she has woken at 3am for milk. X

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He started consistently sleeping through from just over 2 years old. From 18 months he was only waking once for a feed. But from 4 months to 14 months he woke every 1-2 hours most nights. I felt sleep was a developmental thing, and he would get there in his own time. I wanted him to feel safe and happy in his sleep space, so wasn't interested in sleep training him. Am currently reading "How babies sleep" by Prof Helen Ball and it's a fantastic book for explaining what normal baby sleep is like. I now have a 9 week old and we cosleep, and I know we'll have some rough patches in the coming months but that I can get through it.

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My baby sleeps 5-10 hours at night. I just make sure she’s warm, the moment she feels a tiny bit of cold air she will wake up and cry.

Also if your baby wakes up for feed at night just rock them or give them a dummy and they should go back to sleep. When rock my baby back to sleep she doesn’t ‘cry of hunger’ she just goes back to sleep

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Some babies sleep and some don’t, SO much is fine to temperament. We’ve done no sleep training at almost 13 months and have maybe 2-3 wakes a night, one ‘big’ one and the others are just for quick reassurance. We came to the realisation a long time ago that this is just who he is right now and it won’t be forever x

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My girl is 16 months and still wakes 3-5 times per night, so I hope she starts sleeping longer soon though I don’t think she’ll sleep through for a long time yet

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12 months, no sleep training.

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My 2yr old wakes once, comes into our bed and then sleeps through, each child is different. Ive always thought its a but wild when people dont want to gube them food if theyre waking because thryre hungry their stonachs are tiny so for ages frequrnt feeds are nirmal for their bodies.we found co sleeping meant she woke less which meant we got more sleep. Also fyi random sleep regressions will hit and its totallly normal ut wont be so disjointed forever

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Our daughter is 27 months and from 25 months she started sleeping some nights with only waking up 3 times instead of 12 🤣

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My daughter is 8 months and randomly slept through the night one time a few weeks ago. Apart from that miracle night I call one wake up a successful night.
This week we tried to start sleep training because she hits all the signals that she's 'ready' (can self settle sometimes, is over 6 months etc) but the reality was she got totally overwhelmed and screamed for hours! I mean two hours of inconsolable screaming. It was absolute hell. And if anything her sleep has now got worse. I think her temperament is a lot more fiery than these babies that sleep train. If she's not happy she's not giving in anytime soon. So I've learned the hard way to just let her figure it out herslef with the cuddles and none of this drowsy but awake for the foreseeable.
Your baby may be different but forget the windows and think about your baby and their temperament is what I'd say. X

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A lot of sleep training is just letting your baby cry themselves to sleep knowing that no one will come and comfort them. That's absolutely what they did "back in the day" and it's harmful.

Their sleep is highly personal. My eldest slept through from a few months old (bar the odd night or anytime he was ill, which was often!) but my youngest didn't sleep longer than 3 hours at a time until 2.5 years old.

You're in the middle of the sleep regression so now is not the time to sleep train.

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My son started around 9months

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My 1 year old will sleep 5-7 hours max before waking up. We still have around 2-3 wakes a night usually.

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15 months old

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5 months but only if he’s in bed with us
If he’s in his next to me he’ll wake every hour x

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25 months when we night weaned - but we still co-sleep x

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Still waiting for that day to come… 17 months in! :)

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