Apparently I’m the One Not Ready

My 2-year-old daughter hasn’t started nursery yet, but I’m already finding the idea harder than expected. Would really appreciate any advice from parents who’ve been there, I seem to be the one needing the settling-in period.

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Son left childcare found walking in the street 😡

I’m so flustered. My husband and I have been trying to find a church home after moving to Rochester. We are very selective with church homes. we want it to go along with our beliefs , diverse, and have safe childcare. I have 3 toddlers 3 and under so there’s no way we could take them to service without causing a scene. Well today went to a church that we have gone to before. It opened a year ago and we went on the opening day. We didn’t like it too much. It was very chaotic and we said we would give it a chance again one day because it was their 1st day maybe we could try it again in the future. Well today went barely had gas, we were running late to the main church we go to so decided to go to this church that we hadn’t been to in a minute because it worked out better logistically. Well we dropped our 3 sons off and at the end of church we see our son walking in the hall with the pastors wife and another volunteer at the church. He immediately shouts “mama!” I ask “what’s going on”. They proceed to say that “he was found walking outside in the middle of the street following behind a man.” They asked the man is that your son and the man responded no. I am beyond upset. I have always had a hard time trusting leaving my sons with anyone. I have gotten better over the years because I feel I have no choice when it comes to us going to church. We spoke to daycare teacher and she repeatedly apologized right along with the pastors wife. It still just doesn’t feel good enough. They gave us stickers to confirm that the child belongs to us and somehow that still didn’t work. We have no idea how my son just slipped out of the childcare room and ended up outside in downtown Rochester. If anyone has any idea on what we should do that would be much appreciated. Keep in mind the rooms are not built for children. The church is having service out of a random older building downtown.

But just know we won’t be back! I’m so upset 😭

Shapes on tongue

Why does my 3 year olds tongue look like this? It’s always looked like it on and off and has never caused any issues so I haven’t brought it up to any health professionals but I’m just wondering what it is and whether I should be worried about it?

I’m struggling

I have a 1 year old and a 4 week old. Prior to having my 4 week old my 1 year old stayed with my partners mum and sister for a month. My 1 year old has started waking up crying and screaming and he just pushes me away and even with bedtime sometimes he wants me to rock him to sleep and other times he wants his aunty or nana to rock him to sleep and since having his sibling it’s like he’s just not wanting me anymore and I’m so sad about it and i genuinely feel like he doesn’t love me anymore and he doesn’t need me. Sometimes he wants me during the day but most of the time he goes to his dad. My partner says obviously he wants me and loves me and to stop being ridiculous but i genuinely feel like he doesn’t. The only times he does want me is when I’m busy with his sibling(4 week old) so obviously I can’t do anything with him but when the 4 week old is asleep I try my best to spend time with my 1 year old but he literally isn’t interested. I get seeing me with another baby is difficult and somewhat confusing as it used to be just me and him but it hurts.

At what age do you let your child go to the toilet on their own, wipe themself, wash hands etc without you being present

This is including public toilet. At what age would you let them go on their own inside a cubicle and just wait outside for them?

Husband problems

So me and my husband having going back and forth with the same issue since 15 years ago, he is distant and doesn’t have much interest in what I do or have to say. He is either on his phone or sleeping when there is time for us to spend together. He provides and is a good dad, spends time with the kids. He only pays attention to me just before he wants to get intimate. I am sick and tired of been lonely in this marriage. I have given my all, I am a good wife and mother. I have reached a point of not reaching out anymore. I do worry for the consequences of our marriage totally firing once I act the way he does too bu it’s exhausting from my end. Anyone else going through this. Divorce isn’t an option yet as the kids are young and it’s highly impractical to be a single mum for me. What to do, to survive this marriage?

Daycare teacher

Daycare teacher here. I’m a lead teacher at a daycare and my class is 3 year olds. My ratio is 15 to 1. I have exactly 15 kids in my class. 5 of them are NOT potty trained. They aren’t even in the process of training. I’ve communicated with parents about it. They’ll tell me “oh they’re just not ready” and other excuses. If a 3 year old can come tell me that they need a new diaper/pull up every time they poop then they are definitely ready and can start potty training. The rooms built for 3 year olds at my center don’t have changing tables. I have to change my kids while they’re standing. My director expects me to watch 14 kids while also changing a diaper in the bathroom that’s off to the corner of the room. We have floaters but my director thinks a floater is not needed in a room that’s within ratio. I could get written up or fired if anything were to happen to any of my kids if I’m stuck in the bathroom changing a diaper. I tried having a talk with my director about this and she basically told me that there was nothing that could be done and that we can’t force parents to do anything they don’t want to do. The least my center could possibly do is have a changing table in the room so I can still have eyes on my other kids. What should I do? BTW we do offer potty training but it does not work if parents aren’t continuing at home.