Sooooo confused about sleep safety!

My baby will be 4 months next week. Until this past weekend she's mostly slept on me or my husband and we've been sleeping in shifts so someone is always up with her but that doesn't feel sustainable for us. We just started working on getting her to sleep in her bedside bassinet.

If we put her in the bassinet unswaddled or swaddled with arms out she startles awake constantly, but we've been told if she's starting to roll over (she is) she shouldn't be in the swaddle while we're asleep. What is the solution to this?

I just read that at 4 months we should start putting her to bed around 6:30 or 7:30pm. I also know we're not supposed to let her sleep in a room by herself until at least 6 months, preferably a year. Are we supposed to go to bed with her at 7:30pm and stay in the bedroom with her until whenever she wakes up in the morning?? What's the solution to this?

I feel so confused and anxious about keeping our baby safe AND making sure she sleeps well AND trying to do literally anything else. Help please!

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Fucked off

I don’t feel like I’m a good mum, I cannot stand my child clinging onto me/screaming I literally want to smack my head against a wall every time she makes that screeching noise I am seriously exhausted and I have no help whatsoever.

Ive lost my patience

I am only 12 weeks but I fell like ive lost my patience with my 15 month old, all day long im just constantly telling her off for hitting the tv, climbing on the back of the sofa to get to the window, throwing things at the cat and laughing. Im not enjoying being with her and that sounds horrible 😢

Im not enjoying my pregnancy in the first place and feeling exhausted everyday aswel cause my daughter is sleeping in our bed every night as she cries the moment i get near her cot 😢

Im just feeling lost

Pet Lovers

I just found out some bad news yesterday. My babygirl of 14 years has cancer. They found three large masses inside her. I am so devastated. I know i have to put her down but she is still acting like herself. Jumping on and off the bed/counter, eating and drinking.

I just dont know what to do or when to do it. How do I know when its time? She doesn't seem to be in any pain or anything. Vet said that chemo would be hard on her since she's lost weight and is fragile and her age.

I guess I'm making this post for any and all advice on when to know its time to put her down..

Help…Normal tantrum or something more?

My daughter is having the worst meltdowns recently. I’m talking to the point where people are starting to stop outside my house and looking in with concern. The anxiety and humiliation leaving the house sometimes is exhausting. Kicking and screaming at the top of her voice in public and having everyone in the street looking at me, is a different kind of embarrassment and guilt. I’ve had a few conversations recently with various people about seeing someone professional about mt daughter’s behaviour. She’s also started using noises and moans to gesture what she wants, coming from an incredibly smart 3 year old who has been speaking full sentences since she was two. We have regressed in verbal communication, and the meltdowns are getting so horrifically bad. She also tugs at her clothes when distressed or pulls on her fingers. There is absolutely ZERO reasoning with her when she is like this, it’s just constant screaming. I’m a first time mum and just at a complete loss.

Baby isn’t pooing

Hi everyone, I’m looking for a bit of advice/reassurance from anyone who’s experienced something similar.

My baby girl is 8 days old and I’m currently combination feeding, breastfeeding, expressed milk and formula. I’ve really been trying to establish breastfeeding over the last couple of days, but it’s been a struggle since she was born.

She hasn’t had a poo for about a day and a half, and I’m wondering whether this could mean she isn’t getting enough milk directly from me. I’ve been giving expressed milk and formula this afternoon so I can keep an eye on exactly how much she’s taking.

She seems otherwise completely well — her temperature is fine, she’s feeding every few hours, sleeping well between wake windows, isn’t showing any obvious discomfort and her tummy isn’t hard.

I’ve already spoken to the midwife about it a couple of days ago and I’ll be speaking to them again tomorrow morning, but I’d really appreciate hearing from anyone who’s experienced something similar, especially with it being overnight. ❤️

For my boy mamas, i dont know if this is normal or not but both my boys (4 and 2) are constantly touching eachothers pvt part and laughing and saying penis penis, ive told them off many times and said you cant do that but they wont stop.

I know for them its a joke but im worried what is it turns into something that isnt funny one day. Is this normal?