I don’t want my baby

I LOVE my daughter and she is great and I feel like I could be a good mom to her. My husband really wants another and I thought I did too. I thought I was just nervous to be pregnant again since my first was so miserable. I figured if I just bit the bullet and got pregnant then the anxiety around it would be gone.
I want to start by saying my husband is an amazing father and takes the load when I ask except for things he truly cannot do.

Well
Now I’m pregnant and exhausted but not as sick as with my first but I resent my husband and feel like I don’t want this baby now. And I hate myself for feeling that. This baby deserves love and I don’t know how to continue being a good mom and wife while still caring for myself.
Now that I’m pregnant I just hate my husband for not understanding how tired I am and how bad I WANT to have energy and be present but literally can’t. No matter how much I explain it and he says he understands it and I can take a break I guilt myself to be present for my daughter. She never wants her dad if I’m around so I either suck it up and deal with her constant needs or I walk away and don’t get to see how great their relationship is and watch them have fun and laugh.

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I'm so sorry that you're feeling this way.. Once you get yourself stuck in that bubble it's hard to pop it to release yourself. Have you tried to make try to talk to a therapist or even join a mom group and be around moms who maybe feel the same way or went through something similar? Losing your identity and who you are while having to be a mom and a wife can feel like one of the worst things ever... I hope you're able to find an outlet 🩷 don't feel guilty too much. There's a lot of pressure there.

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