Future Anxiety

Hey everyone,

Im 5months postpartum and having deep thoughts about my future as a mum and partner.

I love my son so much. And ive always wanted a few kids, not just the one. But my birth experience wasn't the most favourable. I ended up having an emergency C-section about 17 hours after I realistically should have. Due to that I had infections somewhere (I wasn't even told where) and my family were advised with no information not to leave the hospital when I came out of theater but they wernt allowed to see me.

Since then I was adamant of not wanting any more. But recently ive been thinking about it.

The panick attacks ive had from my own thoughts on the situation are getting tiresome.

Has anyone else been like this? Where the want for more kids is there but the fear of what could possibly happen is overwhelming?

The stress from it all has been affecting my partner but hes trying his best to keep everything happy.

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Well I can’t speak about the anxiety of being pregnant again but I can speak on the labor aspect. I was in labor for like 30 + hours and I ended up having an infection too and I also have no idea where… all I can say it was disgusting what came out of me! And my son was an emergency c-section and he had to go in the nicu. And honestly his whole birth was traumatic… butttt I was irresponsible and got pregnant when my son was 4 months old… I was told to wait 18 months… so yeah doctors weren’t happy with me… but to my point… my daughter was born 15 months after my son and it was a scheduled C-section and she was scheduled to come out at 38 weeks and that time it went swimmingly! It was a whole lot easier and nothing scary or out of the ordinary came up! She was a healthy baby! I was doing well. No issues! So even though my first labor was a nightmare! My second birth experience was worlds better!! So I know you feel anxious but the second birth can be so much better! Have hope 🫶🏻

I feel exactly the same!

I had to have an emergency C-section after being in labour for 24 hours, I was in unbearable pain with the midwife refusing me anything other than gas and air and not coming to check on me for hours at a time, finally got up onto the labour ward and everything went downhill really fast, I was starting to get an infection and baby was in distress. everything past that point feels a bit of a blur but I just remember feeling so scared.

The whole experience really shook me and then ontop of it I suffered with PPD.

The thought of going through all that again gives me the worst anxiety but at the same time I’d love nothing more than to have another baby.

I’m nearly 9 months post partum now and things are definitely starting to feel less scary and I think I’d 100% go for a planned c-section next time as at least I know what I’m in for.

Always here if you want to talk ❤️

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