Is this normal?

I’ve found myself getting so frustrated and annoyed by my 4 yr old lately. I know I’m very overstimulated between he and his sister always being in my face, loud, and just obnoxious like kids are. But is this normal? I feel like I’m constantly fighting a losing battle. He doesn’t listen to anything, he’d rather challenge what we say and it’s just exhausting. He does so much annoying and loud stuff now that he’s almost 5 and I just want him to chill ouuutttt sometimes. Then his little sister yells half the day because she’s high maintenance and I’m just tired 😭 I feel guilty for missing the sweet little 3 yr old boy who was my best buddy. Now he just looks and acts like an older kid who wants to push my buttons and not all squishy and sweet 😩

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Just venting about an ignorant irresponsible husband!

I don’t know if it’s just me or if all husbands are like this, because my husband claims that all men are like him!

He doesn’t want to help with house chores, doesn’t do what’s asked of him, and only helps with the baby on his own terms and free time. Yet, whenever I get upset about something he does, he blames me for not asking for help. Honestly, I don’t even know if I want to ask for help anymore — it feels like such a mental load just to ask!

Usually, he’ll say things like, “Oh, I was about to iron my clothes,” or “I was about to eat,” or “I was about to sleep, I have an early day tomorrow.” You see where this goes…

Even when he does agree to help, he does things in a way that makes me want to just say, “Never mind, I’ll do it myself.” For example, if I ask him to sauté some veggies, he says, “Oh, we should try raw veggies sometime.” Or if I ask him to pass a fork, he says, “You should eat with your hands.”

At this point, I don’t even know if things will ever improve. Part of me feels like I might end up leaving, but I don’t want to take any extreme step right now because it would impact my baby.

Advice?

I don’t feel like a good mom. I’m a mom but I don’t feel as present as I need to be. I have an addiction to my phone ever since my son passed. Growing up it’s how I distracted myself and it’s just gotten worse. I use to be on my phone every now and then before but now it’s constant almost. I still play with my toddler but I get bored easily and I don’t look forward to doing stuff. I’m a couch potato who scrolls. I hate it. I recognize it and I hate it. I don’t go out anymore unless needed besides outback. I don’t bake desserts anymore. I feel lazy. Yes I have a therapist but I never say what I need to when I’m there and I have to bring my toddler so it just doesn’t work out how I imagine.

I’m trying to be the best mom I can be but I struggle. I struggle so hard and at this point I am disappointed in myself because I imagined so much for our life and I can’t even be the mom I need to be. Even my mom who lived in the living room and didn’t play with us at least was a present mom. I checked out. I hate it.

Nursery costs

How much do you pay a month for nursery? And for how many hours?

8 Month food

Has anyone else baby refused taking formula?? My 8 month old has been refusing to take her milk for the past couple of weeks but will eat everything else and will even breastfed. HELPPPO

Emotional cheating?

So my husband had a longtime friend that he had said he was in love with at a time before we met, but she played around with him as a jerk and he ended their friendship right before we met. This was a year and a half ago. He had blocked her on everything but still had her number, though they were never in contact with each other. He told me she was in the past and didn’t have those feelings anymore. Well I just saw on his phone, about a month ago, he had sent her a random text of “asdf” as if he was checking to see if the messages still delivered. How should I feel about this?

What would you do?

I live with my parents and I have two kids (3 &1) my parents constantly complain about me. Talk shit to and about me saying that I could do more. My dad told me I was horrible and shitty mom for wanting to go to the navy and actually do something better for myself and my kids. Then my parents agreed to watch my kids when I go to boot camp and then the times coming up and they’re saying they don’t want to raise any kids anymore it’s too early things are moving too fast. But when I was home doing nothing smoking weed with them constantly needing their help it was never a problem but now that I’m trying to do better for myself I’m the problem. It hurts but I’m just at the point where I am willing to leave and go to the navy and not look back for months or years when it comes to my relationship with them. Am I being sensitive? There’s also a lot more that I didn’t add but just know I do financial help and give food stamps as well and whatever I do still is not good enough.