What would you do?

I live with my parents and I have two kids (3 &1) my parents constantly complain about me. Talk shit to and about me saying that I could do more. My dad told me I was horrible and shitty mom for wanting to go to the navy and actually do something better for myself and my kids. Then my parents agreed to watch my kids when I go to boot camp and then the times coming up and they’re saying they don’t want to raise any kids anymore it’s too early things are moving too fast. But when I was home doing nothing smoking weed with them constantly needing their help it was never a problem but now that I’m trying to do better for myself I’m the problem. It hurts but I’m just at the point where I am willing to leave and go to the navy and not look back for months or years when it comes to my relationship with them. Am I being sensitive? There’s also a lot more that I didn’t add but just know I do financial help and give food stamps as well and whatever I do still is not good enough.

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Mum guilt

Hey, I’m just posting because I’ve got horrendous mum guilt. I have a 3 year old and now a 3 month old. Prior to having my baby, I was out with 3 year old all the time, always busy. That’s obviously not been the case since having baby. We still do go out but I feel like it isn’t as often. Am I just being harsh on myself? I just find it so overwhelming at the minute but don’t want my toddler to feel like the bar has dropped!

Son left childcare found walking in the street 😡

I’m so flustered. My husband and I have been trying to find a church home after moving to Rochester. We are very selective with church homes. we want it to go along with our beliefs , diverse, and have safe childcare. I have 3 toddlers 3 and under so there’s no way we could take them to service without causing a scene. Well today went to a church that we have gone to before. It opened a year ago and we went on the opening day. We didn’t like it too much. It was very chaotic and we said we would give it a chance again one day because it was their 1st day maybe we could try it again in the future. Well today went barely had gas, we were running late to the main church we go to so decided to go to this church that we hadn’t been to in a minute because it worked out better logistically. Well we dropped our 3 sons off and at the end of church we see our son walking in the hall with the pastors wife and another volunteer at the church. He immediately shouts “mama!” I ask “what’s going on”. They proceed to say that “he was found walking outside in the middle of the street following behind a man.” They asked the man is that your son and the man responded no. I am beyond upset. I have always had a hard time trusting leaving my sons with anyone. I have gotten better over the years because I feel I have no choice when it comes to us going to church. We spoke to daycare teacher and she repeatedly apologized right along with the pastors wife. It still just doesn’t feel good enough. They gave us stickers to confirm that the child belongs to us and somehow that still didn’t work. We have no idea how my son just slipped out of the childcare room and ended up outside in downtown Rochester. If anyone has any idea on what we should do that would be much appreciated. Keep in mind the rooms are not built for children. The church is having service out of a random older building downtown.

But just know we won’t be back! I’m so upset 😭

Shapes on tongue

Why does my 3 year olds tongue look like this? It’s always looked like it on and off and has never caused any issues so I haven’t brought it up to any health professionals but I’m just wondering what it is and whether I should be worried about it?

At what age do you let your child go to the toilet on their own, wipe themself, wash hands etc without you being present

This is including public toilet. At what age would you let them go on their own inside a cubicle and just wait outside for them?

Husband problems

So me and my husband having going back and forth with the same issue since 15 years ago, he is distant and doesn’t have much interest in what I do or have to say. He is either on his phone or sleeping when there is time for us to spend together. He provides and is a good dad, spends time with the kids. He only pays attention to me just before he wants to get intimate. I am sick and tired of been lonely in this marriage. I have given my all, I am a good wife and mother. I have reached a point of not reaching out anymore. I do worry for the consequences of our marriage totally firing once I act the way he does too bu it’s exhausting from my end. Anyone else going through this. Divorce isn’t an option yet as the kids are young and it’s highly impractical to be a single mum for me. What to do, to survive this marriage?

Partners mobile and odd behaviour.

My partner changed his mobile phone number yesterday, which he told me about in the morning. He still has not given me his new number. Today whilst at the shops he refused to come in but after 20min of us shopping instead of sending or calling me to find out where we were, he came looking for us. Is this odd behaviour or what??