Decision making

Our 3 1/2 yo is generally really well apart from decision making. It’s driving us crazy! He’s just had a 20 minute stand off/meltdown because he can’t decide which plaster he wants for his hurt toe.
It took 30 odd minutes to decide what biscuit he wanted the other day. I generally leave him to it when it gets to that point & he’ll eventually make a decision but it is wearing me down.

Any advice on how to help the process of deciding for them?! We obviously limit his choices & sometimes don’t give him a choice at all but not always possible

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I give two choices, then it speeds things up 🙂

My lg is the same with some things. Especially what book she wants at night, shes got loads but well name some to choose from if she doesn’t choose herself and it can cause a massive meltdown over nothing! Shell scream “i dont know what one i want” if we pick for her then all hell breaks loose 🤦‍♀️. Shes like it with other things but thats an example. She also has a major meltdown if something breaks like a biscuit for example. I have no advise but i feel the same, its draining 🫠

I’ve started giving my son less choices recently as it just causes meltdowns at the moment. He used to have a choice of most things as it gave him buy into doing things but now I just give him one thing and find he will tell me if it’s wrong and it’s less stressful than getting him to decide what he wants or choose between something. He seems to be particularly emotional at the moment and wonder if pre school and developmental leaps are a bit too much and me just giving him an orange is easier for him than deciding if he wants a banana or an orange.

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