Venting

So we moved from one state to another to stay at the in laws because we were struggling with a lot of things on top of keeping up with our 4 month old all day. I have many medical issues and my baby was a premature baby. We have so many appointments. I have been cleaning the house all day, taking care of the baby and my husband, and the dog. With my in-laws sitting right in front of us, I ask him if he needs anything. He then turns to his mom and says “ just sit the f down.” They all start laughing. I feel really sad and disrespected. I mean I honestly do everything day and night. I’m even helping him eat a snack because he’s holding our baby and playing games on his phone.

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Hi, mama. Why did his comment upset you? Was it because everyone laughed after and you took it as them laughing at you? To me, it sounds like he meant it like you’re doing so much, take a break. I totally understand how his comment could invoke your emotions but I don’t think it was meant how you took it.

Personally the f** would’ve made me mad but also would depend on tone as well. But you may just need a break and that’s coming from someone who also never takes one and does everything. But I’m trying to realize it’s okay to take breaks and not do it all but then again I’m stressed doing it all later lol 😩🫶

Hi, I guess it could have been said nicer. I do everything. He’s been a little mean since we came to his parents. I’m feeling more and more like an outsider. I walk around on eggs with everyone and I don’t feel noticed unless something happens like this and then it’s just so funny to them.

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Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Thoughts?

your soon to be brother in law (upon inquiry) told you that only a few kids from the family were attending his wedding because they are over the age cut off..

5 month old activities

Hey everyone my baby is 5 months old and I want to reduce/cut screen time as I have read up on how bad it is what activities did people do to keep their baby entertained. Thank you in advance.

Tablet for kids

Alright don’t need any negative Nancy’s telling me not to get my 2yo a tablet so if that’s what your gunna do please don’t participate in my poll.

We’re about to move cross country 3+ day trip and my 2yo and 9m hate the car I’m talking scream their heads off till they are out of their seats. We’ve already changed car seats and it didn’t help so I’d like to at least have one entertained and sit next to baby and try and distract her or put her to sleep. Our new car has tvs but since they are rear faced my 2yo can’t see it.

Debating getting her a tablet or dvd player right now on long car rides I end up giving her my phone because I get so overwhelmed sitting in between both of them screaming and crying.

And yes I do bring different toys I bring snacks I play songs try to distract her other ways but for the sake of not losing my mind on this move I think this is best.

-A very overwhelmed and anxious to move mama 😓

Daycare?

Thoughts on daycare?? Truly, I am SCARED to be leaving my kid for daycare. I literally do not trust anyone, not even family (they haven’t given me a reason it’s just trust issues on my end, you never know). He’s turning 3 and I’ve been a sahm the whole time but tbh my man doesn’t make enough for us to move out somewhere more calm . We live in a ‘not so safe’ area in LA and I’m just not used to living here so I just want us to give my son a better life and in order to speed up the process I would have to work.. I do lashes at home and I’d be open to take new clients so I wouldn’t have to look for work but I’m just scared to lose my license 😭

I feel physically sick

I was going through my partners phone. He doesnt mind it. I let him go through mine,we have our emails on the tablet im an open book nothing to hide. I fine this one girl on his phone, they know each other they used to work together. Then I see that he is asking about her dating life blah blah. Then he texted "lucky enough you are one of a few beautiful" um WTF & " thats what i said if not i will have been with you" we have a 16 month old together we are engaged. I cant sleep he is sleeping next to me and I feel so sick I cant ive cried twice and I feel like im breaking