Need to vent

How can someone that has destroyed your life be so successful?
He get money, work when he wants, free time, new house, new car, new gf, new baby on the way, ours that is already raised by me.

And Im struggling in life and in negative in most of my bills, living out of UC and benefits.

Is just not fair

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I feel you sis, currently going through the same thing and broke up with my child’s father 5 weeks ago, but don’t let his “success” determine your future, start living for you and make your frequency higher and you’ll start attracting positive things in your life again ☺️ you’ll get where you need to be in life again, it just takes longer for people that have a good heart unfortunately. And Just because he seems “happy” doesn’t mean his soul isn’t rotting on the inside.

It’s okay if he is happy and I wish the same happiness he has in his life to find you or if not the same amount more!

Comparison is the thief of joy and the grass looks greener. Focus on your life and see what you could do to improve your financial situation.

Can you go to local services to see how to arrange your debt better? Reduce your outgoing? What you’re going through today isn’t permanent, find happiness in the little and more will come your way 💕

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NHS job

Anyone work for the NHS and does 12 hour shifts? How do you work around childcare and your partners job?

He has no respect for anything to do with me.

Husband and I decided to separate 3 days ago. I've been sleeping on the floor in the kids room, and we both have to stay in the same apartment for a while. He wont stop pushing little things and I am reaching my limit. Photos in comments

Toddlers

How often are your toddlers asking for food? My oldest who is 3 just finished a whole plate of food and not even 10 minutes later he’s requesting more food. I know he’s going through a growth spurt, but how do you respond to this.

Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Identity crisis?

Am I the only sahm who feels like they have lost their identity??? I don’t make money for my family, when I used to make great money. But I refuse to drop my under a year old baby off with strangers.
My husband works so much. But I have no control over bringing in money and I’m a control freak type of person! I feel l like I’m losing my grip because we are kind of broke, but day care would only eat up my income anyways! So what’s the point. I’m a workaholic and now I’m just a twitching bum.
I wish I could work from home but so far that’s a fake dream. I’m almost 9 months pp, and I just need to know these awful mood swings and depression will end soon! Send wine!

Saying NO to buying toys etc

5 year old is getting really envious of others. He is obsessed with items that other kids have at school. I am pestered daily to buy these things in a different style when we already have 3 others. I have seen parents just buying stuff their kid likes which I don't necessarily agree with even when i can afford it. How do you deal with it?