My husband is mean, but he claims that I’m the problem
Hi girls,
Like in the title.
From the very beginning of our relationship, my husband hasn’t been good to me. For example, he had no problem publicly — like in front of our friends — yelling, “Tell everyone what today’s argument was about.” From the start, he tried to control me: how much I spend, what I read, what I listen to. He even thought it would be best to have a prenup because he says I’m only after money.
Recently it’s gotten worse. I keep hearing that I’m the one destroying the relationship.And give him heart attack. But for example, I just say that I’d like to go out for Women’s Day with his friends so things can feel nice again after situations like him insulting me in front of them — and instead I hear “advice,” he doesn’t ask for my opinion, or he tells me that I should move out. That it’s my fault our child is stressed. How many times can you ask not to be judged…?
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I think you should consider leaving; this doesn't sound like a loving or emotionally safe environment
This is not a healthy relationship.
He's the problem in your life, get rid of the problem and life will get better
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Is this even possible. My husband helps but im still doing everything like usual. Im cooking all our meals, mowed the garden yesterday, hoover daily wash and hang the clothes outside. He is making our toddlers packed lunch for nursery and does the food shop but other than that everything is our usual. I havent had this waited on hand and food situation I see on socials 🤣😅😬
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Boring.
Having to ask permission from my partner to go have a bath on a Sunday is insane. Yet he walks out the house when he likes to go smoke or plays on his laptop when he likes without a care in the world.
Told him to put the baby on the playmat so he can kick around his answer well all he does is cry and I hate the sound of him crying. It’s consuming…
Bear in mind football is on at 4:30pm and I’m gonna have to cook dinner and do bedtime routine.
Sorry just need a rant.
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Would you be annoyed?
So both me and my husband had our friends round last night for a few drinks, I’ve been feeling unwell for a few days but just powered on like I do everytime I feel a bit rough.
Today I’ve woken up really unwell high fever, being sick, hot and cold shivers and a swollen throat. I was up with my son 2.5 years old from 6am and I let my husband lie in he came out around 930am and I then took myself back to bed as I’m crying feeling so unwell. All I can hear is him saying to my son go find mummy I’ve just looked in the room and he’s lying on the sofa falling asleep whilst my son sits with him just watching tv. I know my son is going to be a nightmare later as he’s not bothered to give my son a nap. But he’s just lying there either on his phone or closing his eyes.
I feel so unwell I haven’t got it in me to go in and just take my son and sort everything myself. When my husband is unwell I make sure I do everything and give him a break. He goes off to play golf every weekend for around 8 hours I’m always with my son and I don’t get a break . I do everything with my son but he makes out he’s amazing and does so much with him. I think he’s only ever taken him out on his own twice in his life I’m always there to organise and do everything
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Advice on my situation 😩
I’m really struggling what to do I need advice or someone to talk to it’s killing me.
Couple months ago my baby dad went out he said he wouldn’t be back late and I told him not to do drugs as I don’t like it and we have a family anyway he didn’t come home till the next day as he was going drugs till silly o’clock in the morning. I had a discussion with him about it saying it upsets me etc saying sorry I won’t do it aged then another couple he did the exact same thing again
On Friday night he went out for a couple hours then came home at 12 in the morning on drugs yet again and somehow it’s all my fault it’s me doing wrong he doesn’t see the wrong in his actions and that he’s hurting me doing it.
Am I over reacting or have I a right ?
He doesn’t help me with our baby at all
Yesterday he spent all day in bed didn’t come see our daughter never mind me .
I put my all into been a mum don’t get help and just get walked all over I don’t know how much I can take i rlly love him and I don’t want a broken family but he’s hurting me doing this all the time l.
His doing but I’m gonna have to be the one who says sorry and try sort it out
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Is he still not ready?
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Wish I had someone to talk to and hit the library with🥲
That’s it. That’s the post. Very much feeling sorry for myself😂 blame the rain
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