Advice on my situation 😩
I’m really struggling what to do I need advice or someone to talk to it’s killing me.
Couple months ago my baby dad went out he said he wouldn’t be back late and I told him not to do drugs as I don’t like it and we have a family anyway he didn’t come home till the next day as he was going drugs till silly o’clock in the morning. I had a discussion with him about it saying it upsets me etc saying sorry I won’t do it aged then another couple he did the exact same thing again
On Friday night he went out for a couple hours then came home at 12 in the morning on drugs yet again and somehow it’s all my fault it’s me doing wrong he doesn’t see the wrong in his actions and that he’s hurting me doing it.
Am I over reacting or have I a right ?
He doesn’t help me with our baby at all
Yesterday he spent all day in bed didn’t come see our daughter never mind me .
I put my all into been a mum don’t get help and just get walked all over I don’t know how much I can take i rlly love him and I don’t want a broken family but he’s hurting me doing this all the time l.
His doing but I’m gonna have to be the one who says sorry and try sort it out
😩😩
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My situation was similar to yours and no matter what’s things never did get better. In the end I left and it was the best thing I ever done. My attitude to the situation was I didn’t want my daughter growing up thinking the situation was normal and find herself in a similar relationship to what mine and her dads was. I also knew if she was to end up in a relationship similar to what mine and her dads was I wouldn’t be happy with it so why put myself through it. Honestly just leave and if he wants to see her you can go make a arrangement
Hi Morgan, I was in the same situation - now a single mum and things are much easier. My advice would be to walk away but I understand this can be really scary. You can do it 😊 xx
Take the kids and leave, you deserve so much more than that. It’s scary, but you can do it!
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I’m really struggling what to do I need advice or someone to talk to it’s killing me.
Couple months ago my baby dad went out he said he wouldn’t be back late and I told him not to do drugs as I don’t like it and we have a family anyway he didn’t come home till the next day as he was going drugs till silly o’clock in the morning. I had a discussion with him about it saying it upsets me etc saying sorry I won’t do it aged then another couple he did the exact same thing again
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Am I over reacting or have I a right ?
He doesn’t help me with our baby at all
Yesterday he spent all day in bed didn’t come see our daughter never mind me .
I put my all into been a mum don’t get help and just get walked all over I don’t know how much I can take i rlly love him and I don’t want a broken family but he’s hurting me doing this all the time l.
His doing but I’m gonna have to be the one who says sorry and try sort it out
😩😩
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