Feeling Pressure to Spend Time with Partner's Family Postpartum

Yes I dealt with this for a whileeee I still am actually dealing with it. The pressure is what makes everything so much harder like why would you want to be around someone who’s pressuring you. Luckily my partner doesn’t give me much lip about it, but at the end of the day your the mom as messed up at that may be to dad you just have more say so. If you don’t feel like doing something that’s causing you to feel a way negatively then you simply don’t have to do it. People will just have to get over themselves because right now it’s not about them especially with you being only 3 months pp.

I might not be the best person to answer because I don’t have any of my own family here, but I completely feel your pain. My in-laws try to visit every single weekend. My mother-in-law even shows up without calling, despite knowing our baby has been a terrible, light sleeper for the first 10 months.
It is exhausting. I’ve always been a positive person and had a great relationship with them, but lately, I sense real resentment from my mother-in-law. When my husband noticed my exhaustion and asked them to come every other weekend instead, they took it personally. They think I just don't want them around, completely failing to understand that we need time for basic chores and rest.
Men just don’t get it! It’s entirely different with your own family. With your own parents, you've been through a lifetime of ups and downs—you never have to worry about them judging you or invading your privacy.

It shouldn't feel this way...feeling forced. It's like you just popped out baby and then they pushed you aside and don't care about you or your needs and just only want to see the baby whenever they demand.
There's no hello how are you? It's just, I want to see the baby!

Has a first time mom I get you. But what can get you through this is being honest. If you are tired or overwhelmed tell them that don’t sugarcoat anything being a mother is hard and takes hard work, we stay up nights. You are taking care of a new born, you need time to be with you and your baby sometimes. Tell them that. Dont overthink about things too, I know it can be hard but try not to think what they think. It’s your life and the baby

I experienced the same thing, my partners family acted SO entitled to my birth as well as my baby afterwards. I explained to my partner that yes my mum loves seeing the baby but she was there for me more than anything, she’d come over with cooked food and just start cleaning take my baby when she needed a nappy change helped sterilise the bottles and pumps because I had a c section and was recovering. His family came over to hold her and it was like I wasn’t even there. It took for my partner to see it with his eyes to understand the difference