Is anyones husband/ partner actually stepping up post baby?

My husband did it all the first few weeks and then I noticed it fell to me for a few weeks. I noticed and started to resent him a little but I communicated it and he agreed and we’re back to him helping.

My partner did the first week, but I had quite an uncomplicated and painless recovery so I think he just assumed I didn’t need to be waited on, looking back I would’ve loved the treatment it’s still as important even when you are fine and don’t have a hard recovery. Now we’re back to usual, I cook, clean etc mostly and take care of the baby. He goes to work and gives her a bath and puts her to sleep. I started to resent him for it, but we’ve now found a bit of a common ground x

Well my baby is 2 weeks and 3 days old and ive been doing majority. I know everyone's exhausted threshold is different but he is always saying hes tired and hes struggling. Our toddler is waking up frequently at night since bringing baby home so hes up at least twice overnight but im up every 3 hours and then still up for the whole day doing the above chores. He does actually look completely run down so I feel bad for getting angry that hes not at my energy level but also im like get over it and get on with it.

My husband is struggling to bond with our baby (c section 2 weeks ago) so I do the majority of the care but he sorts the dogs out, mows the grass, all the food cooking and household bits. He cleans as he goes and joins in on the weekly deep clean with me. The only care he does for the baby is the bath (but I dress him as our baby is calmer with me), feed if I’m busy and change nappy if I’m busy otherwise the feed and changing is on me. Otherwise all I do is join the dog walks, washing up when I have time & washing clothes - It works for us and as long as it works for you :) if not, I’d communicate with him about what you need without just comparing to snippets of other people’s lives

My husband does the cleaning at the weekend and cooks most nights. Although he did this before baby too. He also does most nappies when he is home and gets up in the night with baby.

My partner is amazing with every 'task'. He isn't very good at looking after our daughter when there's nothing to 'do', but every nappy, every meal, every bath time etc, he doesn't need to be told, he just does it! I do night shifts, he does morning shifts and I genuinely get such a good lie in because he is such a capable dad. Our daughter is 15 months old and our next is due next week. I also broke my ankle whilst being pregnant and he didn't complain once! Just did everything! I feel really lucky

while we were both on parental leave, he noticed me struggling and insisted from there forward i sleep through the night. from about five weeks onwards he's done every change, every feed, every night so i can get sleep. he also makes all the meals for the family, does the dishes, and deals with the rubbish

My husband and I have always done 50/50 of the cooking as we both enjoy it. He does also tidy up every morning before he goes to work. My first child was a very easy labour and recovery luckily and he only had 1 week of work as he is self employed, our second was an emergency CS and he had 2 weeks off but did get up with our eldest every morning whilst I slept. However, I do all the night feeds and did with both of them mainly and also do all the cooking and washing (but that’s mainly because I am particular about how I like it done).