What do you think about this work situation?

My husband's work has been slammed lately. Today, at the end of his break, a coworker told him they were really busy, so he ended his break 5 minutes early to go help. They were non-stop busy for the next 1.5 hours, and the second they slowed down, he said "your're welcome" to his coworkers. They were confused. He's furious that they didn't thank him for ending his break early, but they also took their lunch breaks a full hour late to stay and help him. He doesn't think they needed a thank you because "he didn't need them and would have been fine if they went on break on time," and because "they got paid for that full 1.5 hours before their break and he didn't get paid for the extra 5 minutes he worked." And apparently he did it to "help them," but they worked longer because it's "their job, not to help him." He's genuinely angry, and I think his logic is borderline narcissistic. I think both groups deserve to be appreciated for their extra work, but not eating lunch until 3pm feels worse to me than ending an hour break 5 minutes early. I probably won't even tell him I'm posting this survey, I'm just really curious what others think.

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I can understand him being annoyed a venting to his wife about it. I can’t tell if you’re misinterpreting how mad he truly was or not telling us how mad he truly was 👀 cuz it just sounds like he was annoyed which is understandable, the “you’re welcome” was a bit petty and unnecessary but maybe not narcissistic. But if he was having a mental breakdown then yea this is super weird.

I feel like this is just immature? Like he needs validation for an extra 5 minutes?

I think its weird for him to need a thank you for 5 minutes of extra help but not thanking people for giving an hour and a half of help (paid or not). Also, I know the coworker asked for help, but were they aware that he ended his break early? Since he only had 5 minutes left its possible that they thought the break was over and asked for help before he got started on a different task. This whole thing seems petty to me.

Hopefully, like someone else mentioned, maybe he was just venting and not actually as upset as you think. There's times that I vent to my husband because a situation was annoying for me and he thinks I'm angry/frustrated and that he needs to find a solution.

As someone who was a manager in retail before I had my daughter I had my lunch interrupted constantly and that was if I could clock out for lunch. Most days I was the only manager on with no overlap so I couldn’t clock out incase someone needed to do a return ect. I understand being interrupted on your break can be frustrating but you should be grateful for your colleagues working through their designated break time to help out. Now if this is something that regularly happens to him where he is interrupted on break and normally they do not have their breaks affected I get his frustration a little. But mostly I think it’s rude not to say thank you to them and leave it at that. They did make a sacrifice. It’s strange to me he doesn’t see that.

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