I need help - feeding

I’m at my wits end and desperately seeking help from mums/carers that have experienced what I am going through now.

My daughter is such a poor drinker and it’s stressing me out beyond belief, it’s consuming my days and waking me at night thinking about it. She is 7 months old and only drinks 2/3oz at a time, and will push the bottle away if I offer too soon! Doesn’t show hunger cues, it’s just a guessing game. She is on prescribed milk for CMPA but I don’t think this has anything to do with it. Under dietitian that just sit and say “well she should be on X amount of milk, keep offering frequently” but nothing else. She’s tiny, but hitting milestones. Yesterday she had 12oz in the whole day, this can’t be normal? In fact I know it’s not normal.

Just to add, she is very good with solids but on minimal (a few spoons of homemade puree/single finger foods) as don’t want to fill her up on solids and her take even less milk. Always has milk before solids also.

What do I do😣

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At this point id just give her more solids if she is going to eat them.

Have you tried a different formula? Maybe she just hates the one youve got her on.

Hey, first so sorry your going through this it sounds so stressful but sounds as though your doing everything you can so well done you mama.

I would also agree and increase solids if she wants and takes. Babies wouldn’t inherently starve themselves so if she developing and has good nappy output (not dehydrated) then sounds good. If she’s also following the same growth curve then also shouldn’t be too concerning.

My son was a preemie and very small for very long but followed the same curve and developed well and also breastfed so no idea how much milk he took. Your doing great keep going xx

Hi! My first was, and still is, a terrible eater! He’s 2-1/2 now but has been this way from the day he was born. I read your post and can tell you, I truly feel you. The anxiety is unreal when your baby wont eat.

With mine, I realized around 5 months that I had inadvertently caused a bottle aversion because I was so hyper fixated on an imaginary ounce goal (he was a preemie and one of the criteria for being able to leave the NICU was being able to eat some amount of ounces in a day, so it was pushed on us early on to “enforce” drinking a certain amount).

I came upon Rowena Bennett’s book about bottle aversion and followed the program and it changed our lives. It was very hard and stressful but I’m so, so glad I found her book!!! Highly recommend in your situation.

Do you think she would tolerate a bigger nipple size on bottle? If she can tolerate a heavier flow nipple, that may be one way to get her to take more of her bottle 🤷‍♀️.

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