Looking after yourself

I wondered if anyone relates to this.. we hear a lot how as mums we need to take care of ourselves and sure, everyones definition of that is probably a bit different but, i am always last in my mind. The kids get sick and i'm doing everything to get them well.. I'm cleaning their stuff so its nice and cosy for them, keeping them dosed up, feeding them good foods to support their immune system, boiling their toothbrushes daily to kill any bad bacteria and then i get sick... i don't buy myself some medication, i eat whatevers easy (usually a ready meal or similar because i cant be bothered to make myself something proper) i wait until im not sick to change my bedding.. basically i dont follow any of the advice or treat myself half as well as i do my children. I still obviously wash myself daily, brush my teeth.. its not total regret but even some of the things i buy 'for the family' to help with illnesses (obas oils, menthol crystals etc) i wont use them because id rather keep them back for the kids incase they get sick.... stupid, i can afford to buy more but its like i treat myself like a second class citizen 🤣 just wondered if anyone else had this weird mindset.

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I thought this was just what moms do. 😆 totally the same. At most I might take a longer hot shower but otherwise I push through my crap so they can be their best.

I use to until i realized I am actually short changing my child and husband. Not taking care of myself is like “using a pot continuously without cleaning it”…… its like trying to pour from an half empty cup. When youre on an air plane and its about to go down… the folden rule is to “put the oxygen on yourself first” so then u can help others. I realize that my wellbeing flows into them. My mental flows into them. Its said…”when mom hums… the whole family sings along.” So i changed my mind that helping me… is helping them. I just do little things to replenish myself…. Like prayer and devotion even if its 5 minutes, a cup of coffee and taking my supplements daily. Taking time to eat something. All that increases my energy and mood… so i make it happen. I sometimes have to give myself a “mommy time out” to bathe or watch a show. All this just helps me. I do skincare nightly. I take care of my hair. Little things to replenish myself and I feel better.

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