Anxious when alone

My baby is 7 weeks old she is my second, and I struggled with PPD after my first and had baby blues with my daughter I am now on medication, but I hate been alone when my husband goes for his 12hr shifts 4 days a week, my sister comes and helps me loads with the baby but when she leaves I feel completely lost and alone and panicked sometimes to the point I feel like I can’t breath and my chest goes tight and I go really hot. Has anyone else ever felt like this?

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hi there. i feel the same. my second is 10 months now. i dont have help from family since we live abroad. i have a lady coming once a week for 3h to clean. my husband is working a lot and also he is t1d with major problems the last 2 years. i stared medication also, i think its the 4th day now. i had baby blues after my fist but i had support back then. i feel exactly the way you describe it.

Girl my gosh I felt like I was reading about me!!! I actually got so bad that I ended up needing to go to the hospital for a few days. My fiancé is also often gone for work and we live far from family and other friends so I don’t really have a “village” so to speak either. I often feel down, lonely, and ultimately bored (though I feel guilty saying it) being a SAHM can be such mental drudgery and that’s REAL. So I got you!!

Yes, I felt this way as well. Honestly the anxiety was too much for me and I have been taking medication to help so that I can be the best version of myself for my daughter, and be present and enjoy this time. Feeling so much better.

You are not alone, take care, sending love 💕

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Fucked off

I don’t feel like I’m a good mum, I cannot stand my child clinging onto me/screaming I literally want to smack my head against a wall every time she makes that screeching noise I am seriously exhausted and I have no help whatsoever.

Is it ok to let a newborn (2weeks) sleep if already past birth weight or wake to feed ?

No hate for having a sleepy baby please my first was an awful sleeper so I know how triggering these posts can be 😂… but

My 2 week old slept for almost 6hours last night and we woke him even though he seemed pretty tired and would have slept longer. He’s been a sleepy baby since birth but feeds a lot throughout the day and has surpassed his birth weight but my husband woke me last night to say we need to wake the baby to feed. I said I’d get up and pump and let the baby sleep but he said we shouldn’t let him go over 6 hours without a feed….

Should we wake him? Thoughts below please :)

Ive lost my patience

I am only 12 weeks but I fell like ive lost my patience with my 15 month old, all day long im just constantly telling her off for hitting the tv, climbing on the back of the sofa to get to the window, throwing things at the cat and laughing. Im not enjoying being with her and that sounds horrible 😢

Im not enjoying my pregnancy in the first place and feeling exhausted everyday aswel cause my daughter is sleeping in our bed every night as she cries the moment i get near her cot 😢

Im just feeling lost

Help…Normal tantrum or something more?

My daughter is having the worst meltdowns recently. I’m talking to the point where people are starting to stop outside my house and looking in with concern. The anxiety and humiliation leaving the house sometimes is exhausting. Kicking and screaming at the top of her voice in public and having everyone in the street looking at me, is a different kind of embarrassment and guilt. I’ve had a few conversations recently with various people about seeing someone professional about mt daughter’s behaviour. She’s also started using noises and moans to gesture what she wants, coming from an incredibly smart 3 year old who has been speaking full sentences since she was two. We have regressed in verbal communication, and the meltdowns are getting so horrifically bad. She also tugs at her clothes when distressed or pulls on her fingers. There is absolutely ZERO reasoning with her when she is like this, it’s just constant screaming. I’m a first time mum and just at a complete loss.

Breast feeding

I’m expecting in a few months time and want to breast feed (breast and bottle feed). What bottles do you recommend? I formula fed my first daughter and used Dr brown bottles (hated Tommee Tippee and MAM due to tongue tie issues). Is Philips Avent good or Lansinoh? Thank you ☺️

Contact naps

At what age did your baby go from contact naps during the day to sleeping independently? Even if you had to get them to sleep in your arms first and then transfer them? Just wondering when it started to happen for others!