Scared of asking my new landlord to drill holes
How would you ask your new landlord to drill holes for shelves and gym accessories provided that you have the intention to refill and paint when you live? My landlady has kindly warned me that if I was putting a stage gate for my baby, I should remove any visible holes afterwards but didn’t mention if I wanted to do anything else. I’m being careful as my previous landlady didn’t renew my contract when she found out I had a baby and I had to move out with a 4 months baby which was quite panicky! I don’t what to ask or do something that would annoy my landlady but at the same time, I’d like to be able to fell home. Thanks for reading xx
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There shouldn’t be an issue with that! Do you even need to ask permission for that? That’s just pretty standard stuff I’d have thought. If you do need to ask, then I’d send a message saying how you’d like to make the place feel more homely and that you’d like shelving up etc would that be ok, and just explain you have the intention to put it back as it was if/when you leave. Most landlords should be absolutely fine with that, it’s meant to be your home!x
That’s what I thought but as it’s not authorised on the contract and I’m not from the UK, I’m not sure what is acceptable or not. I would have preferred to not ask but I’m a bit worried that I could need her or her husband to come around if something doesn’t work and be awkward because I didn’t ask
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For example when they r supposed to put baby to sleep or feed milk, they say they can’t (and tried) but in actual fact they have not tried. Inconsistent updates from different nursery staff as well.
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Ok so it can't just be me but I need to get it off my chest or i may just combust.
Anyone else's partner just not seeing your needs as a thing that need to be met anymore? And I don't mean big specific things, but general shit, like showering and having 5 minutes of not being touched. My LO will be 5 months on sunday and it seems as thought as long as i see to what he needs and the baby and the dog and house fuck what I need. I have litrally just said to him tonight I really want to shower and feel fresh, baring in mind I haven't showered in like 4 days (litrally a sink wash when I have 30 seconds) and the response was ok. He then went and showered after I bathed our LO and settled her to bed. Now 10pm, I still haven't showered!!
I dont know how much more I can take. I do everything, all the time and I get he is at work but I just want like 5 minutes without worrying about the LO to go have a second to myself and see to a basic need.
I dont think he grasps that he basically just goes and does what he wants, when he wants and how he wants whenever but I have to constantly ask him to watch her or do somwthing so I can meet my own basic needs like eating, or on the rare occasion lately shower. Like ffs. I really don't think I can take much more. I feel like I might as well be trying to do it all on my own because I pretty much am anyway!
Please someone tell me it gets better.
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