Do you feel this way?

Recently I just want to be left alone. Away from my 2 really young babies, 9m and 26m olds, my husband, and my mom. I just feel like being alone is better. I find happiness just being alone even if its doing nothing like sitting in the car or lay in bed. Anyone else feeling this way?

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I can relate. But it's just because I get so overstimulated by my almost 9mo because I'm the only one taking car of her and haven't gone back to work. I'm an introvert and my daughter is a velcro baby through and through. Everybody needs their time to recharge

You should be able to do this if you need to. Have you spoken to your husband? Is he understanding, and will he take care of the kids willingly if you need some space?

Yes and no. I feel like I occasionally need small breaks of alone time, but overall I love being around my husband and daughters.

I need breaks from my kids, my husband, to be myself for a night, just KELLIE, no Mum no wife no sister no daughter, just me. Doesn’t necessarily mean “alone” though, I love being around people and loud music and drinks and dance and feeling ALIVE. I love night life. Hubby looks after my kids plenty for me to go see friends, do hobbies go to events etc. recharging means different to everyone. Do you never go out for him to have the kids alone? Does it have to end in divorce for him to do that? Can you not just tell him you booked for a massage, wanna go spa, walk around the lake by yourself etc? My friend pays $400/year for gym membership just chill in spa/sauna, she just grabs her keys and say she’s going gym. Everyone needs outlets, hobbies.

Can't say I haven't thought about seperating to be able to get some time to myself while my little one is at dada's house. This is what my mum had with me and my sister going to stay at our dad's and I'm actually kind of jealous 😅

💯 I always picture myself alone away from the world in the woods in a nice cabin. Just me and my daughter

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Looking for my girlie tribe 🥹🩷 I’m 32 and have an 8 yr old son! I’d love some genuine mom friends to just do life with! Whether we’re close enough for brunch, coffee dates, shopping, girls nights & play dates with the kiddos OR we live 2,000 miles apart and just text and send each other reels all day 😂😭

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It's it better to have health insurance or go without in the USA? Trying to decide if I should get insurance next year or keep going without it. I've had insurance before and want another honest opinion.

i think i resent my husband

it feels like this entire pregnancy he’s been pushing every boundary i’ve asked for. when i first found out i was pregnant initially i said no telling anyone until 12weeks. but i was so sick so my parents who live near us would come drop off food regularly so they found out i was pregnant around 6 weeks bc i was hospitalized. i asked him to wait to tell his parents until after first trimester though bc of risk of MC and i don’t really have a relationship with them and so was really anxious. he kept fighting me about that but ended up not telling them.

then a few months ago he insisted they be present for the birth even though i asked for a few weeks to recover. that was another huge fight because he said they’re also grandparents they should be here when the baby’s born. i tried explaining there are very few people i want around me when im bleeding and leaking everywhere but he kept saying it’s not fair they’re grandparents too even when i tried to explain its not about the baby it’s about ME.

Ive tried compromising ive tried saying ok they can come but they need to stay in a hotel but its apparently disrespectful to ask his mom to stay elsewhere and he keeps going back to “fair”. Is it fair i had severe hospitalization nausea for 16 weeks? Is it fair i cant sleep bc i get up to pee 6x a night? I’m the one growing the child I have to recover while learning to breastfeed (something HE wants, id happily do formula) and learning to keep a tiny human alive.

I’m 1 month from delivering and we keep having these fights. I said ok let me see how i’m feeling post birth then we can decide when his parents come (how long they need to wait) but even that’s not okay. It’s like if i don’t decide right now we won’t see them for 4-5 months bc they don’t want to travel in the cold and I feel like that decision is being blamed on me.

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I fear I found the best solution to my depression and poor productivity and hate to report it is working out. Haven’t done it consistently for over 3 yrs, and wooo am I back to square one, but twenty minutes of movement each day has really helped my mental state and my overall attitude. Life has been kicking my families ass for the better part of a year, and this small thing has been helping me cope.
Been doing the Grow With Jo workouts on YouTube, lots of beginner friendly workouts and no equipment needed!

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Okay, putting myself out there because making friends as an adult is HARD. 😂

I’m a mom, obviously, but I’m not necessarily looking for another mom just for playdates. I’d actually love to find a genuine friend who happens to be a mom too.

I’m kind of a mix of both worlds. I’ve always been “one of the guys” 😂—I can talk sports, hang out in a garage, wear a Steelers shirt and call it an outfit. But lately I’ve been getting more in touch with my girly side and realizing I actually REALLY want some girl time too. 💅🏼😂

Give me someone I can grab coffee or dinner with, wander Target with for no reason, randomly text throughout the day, laugh until we cry, vent about life, get dressed up with, or just sit around and do absolutely nothing with.

I’m not looking for a friendship that revolves entirely around our kids. I love being a mom, but I’d love to have a friend who wants to talk about literally anything else sometimes too. 😂

I’m pretty laid-back, sarcastic, probably a little awkward at first, and apparently making friends after 30 is basically dating with less pressure but somehow MORE anxiety. 😂

So if you’re also looking for a genuine girl friend and thinking, “Who can I talk to about this crazy life with?” …hi. 👋🏼 Maybe we should talk. 💚