Advice and rant

Personally I think you should because if I were in his wife’s shoes I’d want to know that sort of thing for my child

Being with a man that much older than you will never work. He doesn’t like women his own age bc he can’t manipulate them and they can see through his bullshit.

Personally, I wouldn’t put him on the birth certificate or give the baby his last name. I’d keep him blocked. You’re pregnant and don’t need this drama.

To answer your question, that depends. Does she know about you? Did you cause the end of their marriage? How old are her kids? Have you ever spoken to her? There’s so many variables here and unfortunately, it isn’t a yes you should or no you shouldn’t.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this… especially because the older you get the more you’ll realize that you are still a kid at 19 and a 40 year old man has absolutely no business going after you. Speaking from experience and the hurt in my heart for girls who go through this. Older men who go after young women/girls only do so because women with enough life experience would never put up with them because they are narcissistic losers, and if it wasn’t illegal they would definitely go for even younger girls because they are easier to manipulate the younger you get.

Please, for your sake and baby’s, never go back to him. Don’t reach out to his wife, maybe in the future it’s something you can look into, but now as a teenager you need to just completely separate yourself from him, your older self will thank you so much. I’m so so sorry this was your experience.

Im not sure maybe talking to his ex wife is a good thing bc u guys can relate to his abusive ass or maybe it’s a bad thing bc she might still be healing and resentful and could be mean to u .

I’m not sure think about it sleep on it and ull get ur answer

Babe that man groomed you. Wait till baby is born & put him on CS. Leave him & his family alone. I’m sure his wife won’t receive the news the way you intend it.