Sleep/ mental health

Anyone else’s baby still waking up hourly? Longest stretch mine’s done is 2 hours since born. I’m at my limit, both mentally and physically. Baby is EBF but doesn’t wake for feeding just comfort, so not hungry.

Partner isn’t helpful, in 6 months he’s never taken baby in the morning or done a single night. In fact he sleeps in every single weekend when he’s not at work. I’m caring for baby 5-6 days a week on my own, no family support either.

I feel depressed and don’t know how long until my body shuts down due to lack of sleep.

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No advice just solidarity. I'm at my limit here as well.

Nope no support system. Just me and my husband so absolutely no breaks. Also have an older son with suspected ASD so it's.. A lot

I heard that if you make the baby do forward flips and hold them upside down etc it can help them sleep longer as that helps them develop their proprioception (which tires them out a lot). I've been doing it with my EBF son and he's up a few times in the night - though I'm not sure the flipping actually helps! May be worth a shot though. Just be careful and make sure baby is comfortable and enjoying it.

I hope something lets up soon so you feel a bit more rested. It's soo tough but you got this mama. And remember, everything is just a season and it will pass 🫶

My baby is still waking up every 1/2 hour in the night, been like this for nearly 2 months now and she's EBF. She wakes up, suckles and falls back to sleep, or wakes up wide awake and takes hours to go back to sleep. Feeling really fed up now...

Ours was the same. Was up every 1/2hrs pretty much since birth. In last week or so its now every 2/3 hrs and can put him down easier. So hoping things are taking a turn now and itll get easier. Hoping the same for you all

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Would this bug you?

My partner does his own washing (great!) and I do mine and our toddler’s.

Sometimes I put toddler’s clothes straight in the washing machine if they are ditched, with a view that I’ll do a load later.

But this morning, my partner needed to do a load of washing and instead of washing our toddler’s clothes with his (toddler had a vest, jumper, and a top), my partner took our toddler’s clothes out, put them on the side, so he could wash his own clothes???

Why not just chuck our toddler’s clothes in with his?

This has happened twice now and he’s never washed our toddlers clothes

Being on phone whilst breastfeeding or holding baby

Husband wants me to stay off my phone when breastfeeding day or night. He says the phone is too close to the baby's head. Husband is annoyed that I said No. I'm up doing nights and baby's in my arms and I should stay off my phone. Ridiculous. He said i should read or listen to something instead.

😒

Thoughts? Anyone else doing this.

FYI i'm not on my phone all feeds. Just at 3 something in the morning when I have had minimal sleep yes I am on my phone trying to stay awake.

Baby finally sleeping through but it’s now effecting my marriage

Controversial one and I can’t believe I’m going to say this but I miss daughter waking up in the night. She’s always been a 6:30-7:30pm to bed kinda baby. But she’d wake up twice a night.
However all of a sudden she’s started sleeping through but the catch is she goes to sleep after 9pm. By the time we’ve put her to bed and go ourselves sorted there isn’t much of an evening left to spend with my husband.
We used to cook together and watch films or box sets and chat. It’s done wonder for keeping our love life going as we’ve navigated becoming parents. But now we almost don’t have any down time together.
We get up around 6:15am for our jobs so it’s not realistic for us to be staying up much later.

Has anyone else experienced similar?

Fighting sleep

My little girl is 15 weeks and for the last 3ish weeks has been fighting every day time nap, and bedtime.

She doesn’t have strict wake windows and I just follow her sleepy cues, which are usually rubbing eyes, yawning, and staring into space. When she gets to this point I will give her her dummy to soothe into sleep, but she resists it to the point I have to rock her whilst she screams for 20 minutes before finally falling asleep.

She only wakes twice in the night around 1:30 for a feed and again at 6:30.

Is there a way to stop this or will she just naturally learn to fall asleep peacefully one day? 😂

4am wake up

What are we doing with these 4am wake ups let them play in cot while go back to sleep? Try get them back to sleep? Or just give up entirely and start your day 😂🫠

Reducing formula

My little one is about to turn one and I know I need to be reducing her formula intake. She does eat well but there is always a concern she isn’t eating everything she needs nutritionally. She currently has 4 150ml bottles a day. 1st one about 05:45 and the final one before bed and tooth brushing. She loves her milk so I know it will be hard to reduce. My aim is to lose the day bottles first.