I feel like I’m failing at everything 😔
I am 20 weeks pregnant and I just feel like I’m failing everyone around me …
My scan showed that my baby only has one kidney and I feel guilty and as though I’ve done something to cause it …
My partner says he feels distant from me because I’m unable to be intimate or just cuddle much because of my pelvic girdle pain or energy levels.
He says he understands that I try and do everything I can to verbally communicate that I am still happy in the relationship and that I still find him attractive but it’s not enough because he needs physical touch.
I feel really overwhelmed and overstimulated all the time but I feel like I have to be strong because my partner is struggling.
Our friends are there for my partner which is great but hasn’t once asked how I am.
I feel like I’m gaslighting myself that people are upset and quiet with me even though we’ve literally seen them today.
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Very very very normal! I had extreme sciatic pain and I had to get the long pregnancy pillow to sleep! My partner and I had sex on regular bases though! I made sure he was happy even by doing oral! And then his dad got very sick and passed away right before I was due….we went through a lot of turmoil and even now sometimes we fight but we choose each other! But mostly I was alone during my pregnancy, I didn’t understand my emotions really well! I think if I had journaled and understood what I was doing and what I was thinking reread what I wrote would have helped cause I do that now and it’s very helpful! But most importantly what helped me was going through baby stores and picking out outfits for my baby and the anticipation of me being a mom! I loved going through thrift stores too sometimes they have good shit! I was always doing something during my pregnancy so my emotions wouldn’t heighten and if and when they did I always talked to my mom or someone close to me!
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