anger management

Teach him what to do with his anger?

In my house my little has permission to punch a pillow, scream into a pillow and she has a large inflatable bluey punching toy that she can hit.

She also comes to me for help taking deep breaths to calm down when her feelings are too big alone.

So: you teach him deep breathing. You teach him the words for his feelings so he can name them instead of screaming. Do hot chocolate breathing (Google it.)

Teach him whatever thing you’re okay with him doing in your house to express his anger. I dont care if my kid stomps, for example.
Anyway good luck

I'd look into incorporating sensory input activities and emotional intelligence practice to your daily routine.

At this age it's going to be very simple...
Children require co-regulation. So it's your job to teach him what's safe to do in moments of calm (not when he's angry or frustrated). I've never had an issue with my boys punching a pillow but we also incorporate a lot of physical activities that they now do instead of just punching to release anger - shaking, jumping, wall pushes, etc.

that’s exactly how i taught mine not to hit people. when he was very little and hitting i would immediately stop him, demonstrate gentle hands on myself and get him to copy, and then find the nearest inanimate object and demonstrate hitting that and get him to copy and repeat. i dont think there’s anything wrong with hitting inanimate objects or other ways of getting out the physical build up of anger. i think turning undesirable actions into a structured similar activity that doesn’t hurt people is the best way of getting them to stop doing those things.
the only thing i would note is not hitting objects that could break or hurt the person hitting or don’t belong to you. so that would be like walls, other people’s toys, and yes i would probably try to redirect from the table because that could hurt his hand. i would just calmly say like “i see you’re angry and want to hit but the table can hurt you, how about hit this pillow?” also work on deep breaths. i wish i started that sooner.

thanks guys! i’ve done the deep breaths and regulating for when he’s crying but makes sense to do the same with anger. i tell him he can be mad so he knows the feeling is ok but now it’s more correcting the way he acts about it. thanks! sorry if i seemed stupid i’m also dealing with some serious pregnancy brain right now 😵‍💫😂