So my bf has told me "you've let yourself go" and "im not attracted to you " I had my baby 5 months ago. I do everything on my own (hes gone 5 days a week) I have no family here. When hes home he doesnt do much. My baby doesnt take a bottle so I cant even go to the nail salon. I am a stay at home mom. Im starting up my business with a 5 month old. And my bd just sent me a photo of me when I was prepragancy..... he didmt say anything just sent a mirror butt selfie I had taken. Im upset. I was 196 when I got pregnant and im down to 217. I cant count calories due to breast feeding and I've just expressed that for the last 4 months I've had the baby blues. Like how you yall feel?
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First of all how dare he. Your body took 9 months to grow a child and birth a child. It’s going to take time to heal. Also, you’re 5 months postpartum! I’m almost 6 and my core still feels like I’m going to break in half.
Wtf. He has no idea or understanding as to what happens with women’s bodies. 5 months feels like nothing and if you’re doing it on your own with no support when are you supposed to exercise. If you wanted to.
I put my baby in her play mat and do short exercises, holding my baby to squat, lunges. I do push ups, bear planks, and am working on pull ups but I’m still not what I was berore baby.
He’s a jerk. You literally had his child. Your body is going to change and that’s normal.
Sounds like you’re breastfeeding and your body may store more fat because of that and there’s nothing wrong with that. You created and are feeding a human being.

"My body created a life. Yours is just creating extra stress. Focus on being a present father instead of my photo gallery."
"Oh, are we sharing photos of things that used to look better? Let me go find your old bank statements or your original dad application."
"I’m busy raising a 5-month-old on my own while starting a business. What’s your excuse for letting your personality go?"
"You know, I could easily drop around 180 lbs overnight... just by changing the locks."
"I literally grew a whole human, what have you done in the last 5 months besides leave your trash around?"
Just a few options. You have every right to be upset... If you can find a private nail artist they might be able to work with you... You are perfect and doing great ❤️

Men like this genuinely disgust me like you literally had his baby a whole human growing in you and expects you to bounce back by month 5 with you having no help like be so fr😒😒

This is what really pisses me off about men!!! All they care about is looks attraction and sex I swear! They give 2 shits that we RISKED our fkn lives to have a baby!!!! It's exhausting, it's hormonal it's hard!!! Yet they do nothing squirt, sit and wait support then oh...well you've let your self go now I don't feel attracted to you... WOW!!! selfish beyond words!!!!

Tell his mother the bullshit he's said to you, she'll quickly sort him out! Men are so pathetic.
My baby has been having this on his gum for weeks now and the gp said it’s nothing but I’m so worried.
Has ever come across this before? I’m soo worried. Not sure if it’s affecting his feeding.. but he eats ok.
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Hi, throughout duration of my pregnancy the husband has been rude and inconsiderate. He has forgotten my birthday and our anniversary.
I’m not sure if obedience school is an option at this age because he is 40 now and beyond the point of training age.
Any tips or helpful tricks to mediate his autonomy at this time ?

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Hey all,
This is just a rant I apologise in advance and I’m posting anonymously because I’m carrying so much shame for this but I need to say it out loud… being a mama is tough!!!!
Doing it solo since my LO was 6 weeks old and I’ve got so many positives happening right now, a new home I’m decorating and getting ready to move into with my little boy, life should feel lighter. But the to do list, with an 8, almost 9 month old who’s been battling a cold for a week, sleepless nights, grumpy days, I’m burnt out.
I’ve tried talking to my own mum but she questions how I’m going to cope being on my own with him (we are currently at my parents) and when I try to talk to her when I get a little overwhelmed, she responds in ways that highlight why I shouldn’t be struggling and it makes me shut down and say less.
Please tell me I’m not alone having hard days? I’m like a bottle of pop constantly being shook with nowhere to put it, so I’m posting this on here whilst crying on the toilet. 🤦🏼♀️
Please be gentle.
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I have a 5 year old daughter and her attitude and behaviour is so bad lately is that normal

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Are you guys genuinely giving your baby your undivided attention all day?? My baby is fine with independent play on his mat so often times I let him just play (obviously I’m nearby paying attention) but if he’s not crying I just let him be. I use this time to clean whatever room I’m in or just relax for a second. Is that bad?? For 5 months he’s where he should be milestone wise I think. Rolling both ways, rocking back and forth getting ready to crawl, sits up mostly unsupported.. I just feel guilty like should I be playing with him all day?? Or is independent play a good skill to have?? And yes I do play with him, and if he’s crying I pick him up and comfort him and play with him in my lap.
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So my bf has told me "you've let yourself go" and "im not attracted to you " I had my baby 5 months ago. I do everything on my own (hes gone 5 days a week) I have no family here. When hes home he doesnt do much. My baby doesnt take a bottle so I cant even go to the nail salon. I am a stay at home mom. Im starting up my business with a 5 month old. And my bd just sent me a photo of me when I was prepragancy..... he didmt say anything just sent a mirror butt selfie I had taken. Im upset. I was 196 when I got pregnant and im down to 217. I cant count calories due to breast feeding and I've just expressed that for the last 4 months I've had the baby blues. Like how you yall feel?
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