Am I right for feeling a type of way
So we are in a lot of debt right now
My partner has made it so I can’t go back to my old job so I do a bit of admin work for my parents business and i sell things on Vinted to make money but as you can imagine it’s not very much, I look for online flexible remote jobs all the time (because I still have to pay for the food shopping and rent) as this is what I’m restricted too to be home with the kids as he is quite spontaneous even with his work (self employed)
Recently we had to borrow some money from my parents (they’ve already paid for a lot of things for us which we will pay back and they’re very patient I just feel bad) now this particular money my partner said he would be able to pay back the next day (a client was supposed to pay him) so this is what I told my mum but there was no payment which I know is not his fault but he always says yeah I should be getting paid this day that day but it’s never that time
Now his mum really wants him to go on holiday with her this month but only told him this in January very last minute imo so anyways she’s booked his flight for him but it cost more than what we needed from my parents it just doesn’t seem fair as we already owe them so much but we don’t owe his mum anything (well he will have to pay her back but yeah)
He told me to ask my mum before he’d even asked both of his parents which I did cos I assumed he knew they wouldn’t have the money but idk now
And part of me feels like he shouldn’t be going away when he owes ppl money (we owe some of his friends quite a bit too) and doesn’t know if he’ll be able to pay them back before he goes
Am I being petty or am I valid?
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I think you’re valid. He has higher priorities than vacationing. My partner does the same thing, except we don’t owe family or friends money. He always tries to plan trips and it bothers me when bills are piling up and things are getting paid late.
You’re not alone in your frustration.
Your feelings are valid. His priorities are a bit out of line. I hope you can find a WFH job soon or he gets paid from the gigs he’s doing because this is never a good feeling.
Ridiculous and quite frankly completely out of order he owes money to your family who have bailed you out multiple times but instead of paying what he owes, is swanning on off holiday. I’d be so pissed. It shows a complete lack of respect to your family. I’d kick off big time about this and tell him it’s not on.
Your not alone ❤️
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