Sleeep!

Unfortunately I don’t have any advice, but I’m going to have a baby in three months with an 4yo. I’m worried about this (my husband also works weird shifts and won’t always be home to help at bedtime) so I’m hoping to see other people’s answers as well.

When my 4 year old started doing that, i introduced camping night ! On Saturdays, we would read together in bed and he sleep with us. Extend his bedtime by almost 30-45 mins and baby is in the crib. Follow schedule with baby and flexible with toddler on that day. It worked for us. Although some nights we still negotiate

My girl was also 4y when her baby brother came. For us bedtime was always non negotiable. We all sleep in our own rooms and get the best sleep, in our own beds. I just reinforced this rule, plus emphasizing that the baby and I will make lots of noise and wake her up, so its best to sleep in her room. I also moved my baby in his own room at 8m, and started the transition steps at 7m. I find that firm and consistent boundries work best for us and everyone is happy. I hope you find what works for you and get some good 😴 soon

Two different tracks here: the first is to put them both to sleep in the same room laying down with both or whoever needs it most. The second is to do bedtime with your 4yo then work on baby, sending your 4yo straight back to bed if they come out for any reason.