Does anyone else feel nothing for the baby they are pregnant with?

Then stop. Stop doing his laundry stop cooking dinner, stop cleaning up after him. Your husband is insane. The work you put in being a "nanny" while he works is the equivalent of his job. Everything else and I do mean everything besides keeping the kids alive while he is gone should be split 50/50 he is an adult too. He shares the responsibility.

Oh, I know it ain't easy. Certainly easier to say. I had a couple of fights with my man over what exactly was my responsibility. But I absolutely refuse to be a childminder 24 hours a day on top of a housekeeper and a cook.

The problem is your husband
Not this baby/pregnancy
Bear in mind hormones are likely to be at an all time high
Literally tell him point blank
His children & dogs need to either be taken care of by him at least in the next few months or not visit be sent away to other family!

First of all, I am so sorry you are having to go through all that. I can't begin to imagine the horrible nightmare you must be living. It is not fair on you nor on the baby that's coming and nor on anyone really, what he is doing to you. You have to call it for what it is, emotional abuse, soon to be physical because he is not taking care of you. You are pregnant and you should not be doing all that. I can remember when I was 35 and my bf was the lazy one, I was still expected to work, raise my then 1 year old and also attend to the house. Cried myself to sleep, was hard to hide it from my child.. had my brothers dog also stay with us at times due to his personal issues.. that being said, nothing compares to the pain and struggle you are having to go through. All I can say really is to stay strong for you and your children. Anything and everything else will need to wait.. or be dropped whether he likes it or not. Do you have family or friends you can lean on in this difficult time?

Also, I really want to give you a hug and tell you that everything will be okay, and lend you a hand somehow. Men in this time and age should not be behaving like they rule the world and be treating women like this, is insane!!! Please stay strong, call for help, speak to someone but the baby deserves you at your best and it might feel like you can't connect right now, I sure did when I was pregnant with my second, but everything changes when they are born

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This post showed up on my feed. Although I’m not in the group I did want to comment. I had 2 under 2 many years ago and I had a husband just like yours down to even bringing animals into the house. I was trapped as well. Stop doing it all. Who cares if you get screamed at, put some headphones in. When he gets home and starts his shit go take a long hot shower. Even if you don’t shower and take a damn nap on the bathroom floor (been there). Stop washing his dishes. Wash what you and the baby need. Stop doing his laundry. Stop cooking his meals. This will force him to have to do it. What’s he going to do? Bitch about doing it? Then he has no right to expect you to do it if he can’t even manage to do it lol. Stop watching his children. Before they get there leave the house. Demand respect. Ultimately that marriage of mine led to divorce. You do not have to live this way.

He is damn abusive! I know it's hard but maybe divorce is your best option. Try maybe see someone legal about your options and plan an escape. Postpartum is so hard and it's better to.get the support you need in a quieter environment than the torment he's putting you through. You don't deserve this! Take your toddler and leave. He doesn't deserve you and since you're high risk you're better off alone in a quiet place with far less stress. There have to be helps out there and laws to protect you. You need to think of what's best for you, your baby and your toddler. It'd be hard but I don't see you getting the help you need even after birth so if I were you I'd take him for what his worth, every dime possible and leave his sorry ass...

Do you actually love him?

If you’re in Australia contact tressillian or speak to your midwife’s alone get support because that is way to much for you to be dealing with especially if it’s a high risk pregnancy .. it took me a while to have a connection with my son due to pregnancy and complications but we got there.. praying that things work out for you

If you feel this way it’s best to seek some help via social services & therapy
It’s your choice to make ultimately if your baby will be better of without you then put him up for adoption
Only you can decide & know what’s going to work for your family

If your in the UK there are a lot of services that can help you with housing financial mental & your children
Either way
My advice make plans to leave this man
Take notes of all the abuse for evidence & a reminder to you the reasons
He’s abusive & literally ruining yours & your children’s lives
It will be hard for a year vs forever
You decide

LEAVE
He’s a narcissist his needs will always be placed above you & the children

If he had that much money for decorating for Halloween which isn’t even an important celebration & asking you to stop therapy due to cost he’s making an absolute mockery of you
Have some self respect
Do no accept his nonsense

Make a plan
Save a bit of money
Sell things you don’t need
Look into support in your community the church charity groups etc etc