SPRING/ SUMMER outdoor toys

Hi moms, this is our first warm season with a walker .

What are your must have outdoor toys for spring & summer ?

in our community

Always waiting for older sister.

I am here to vent.

For 10 years now I have been hearing things like “you cant get married before your sister”, “you cant have more than your sister”, “we can’t do that for you because we haven’t given the same / similar thing to your sister”. I’m so sick of this. I am in my 30s now. She a couple years older than me. Always got more than me / the more expensive things and I was ok with that because she is older.

Now it’s too much. She had a big expensive wedding, I never had a wedding as I got pregnant 5 years after waiting years for her to marry. She married straight after she found out I was pregnant.

I was having another baby unexpextedly after my first and I was crusified for it beyond any of you readers can understand. I was shouted at and treated terribly while being 8 months pregnant by my own parents as she was not pregnant yet.

They continued to treat me badly after the baby was born for a year.

After her baby was born everyone decided to forget how much they hated me.

Please be aware I never wanted children like this. And I feel terrible about myself everyday because of it. I wish I had the pride she had by being married before kids but I will never have that. I blame them for not having what I wanted.

Now my kids are older I want an extension on my house (my dad is a builder and gets cheap rates it would save us thousands). Well it has to be her house first even though he has spend all his money on her ground floor extension and garden. (now she wants second story extension).

I would do it without him and try to get the cheapest rate myself but he will probably act like I have betrayed him by employing someone else to do the work. It needs to be done now as kids will go to school soon.

I’m just very pissed off but I am not surprised obviously after everything.

My partner is very angry we can’t do what we want especially as I used all my money to buy this house.

Nursery bill

Would your nursery bill be adjusted to a slightly lower price if you made the nursery aware of your child having a day off for a holiday?

MIL and childcare for baby no 2

Current scenario, my MIL has my 19mo at my house one day a week. For baby no 2, the thought of her coming over every Monday whilst I’m on mat leave gives me so much anxiery. Hormones, trying to bond with baby and also being able to have an extra day with my older son (I work full time at the mo) is really important to me, but I know it will cause issues.

Has anyone else navigated this? And what did you do?

Nesting

I’m 33+2, I keep seeing reels about how people are like psychotically nesting in the third trimester, the whole expectation vs reality shtick showing people scrubbing ovens and wiping skirting boards… am I the only one not getting that..? I begrudgingly did my normal weekly clean yesterday and hoovered and mopped and it nearly killed me off, and I certainly didn’t do it for fun.

First date night gone wrong ?

I was looking forward to going out with him and he had even surprised me with and outfit (I had got him to book the event and I have been banging on about we don’t do anything nice and he doesn’t take control ever) I was so excited. He had got his mate and his wife to come too I don’t mind them they are okay. We bump into his 3rd friend at the event who I dislike due to him being a terrible influence on my husband.

But husband has drank loads but after the event wants to go out out. It’s our first night out together I’ve drove so he could drink he got to see all his friends at this even he got to sing dance and drink with them.

It was around 10 and I had said let’s go home to our baby he said he wants to go for 1 pint and asked if I’ll be okay driving home myself. I said “we are going home you’re not going out now” I get in to my car upset and he comes over opens the door and is like it’s just one drink.

I leave crying and racing away. 3 hours later he’s ended up elsewhere didn’t even see if I got home okay or if I’m just okay In general. I wasn’t trying to be controlling.

He had pre drinks at 5 and drank the whole time at the event. I wanted the rest of the night with him.

This has really affected me because we’ve been married for 2 years and all I’ve ever asked for was communication and he’s mocked that.

Am I being too much ?

Difficult Nursery drop offs

Please tell me your experiences - not for you to relive that painful experience but trying to figure out if it’s normal the way my little boy is acting (first time mum) he started nursery we are on week 4 and his meltdowns are getting worse and worse in the morning & effects his sleep …

Im so worried I’m doing more harm than good, sometimes nursery right now isn’t for every child - he’s a highly anxious child, terrible separation anxiety 😭

What’s your experience & anything help your little one ease into it ?