First date night gone wrong ?

I was looking forward to going out with him and he had even surprised me with and outfit (I had got him to book the event and I have been banging on about we don’t do anything nice and he doesn’t take control ever) I was so excited. He had got his mate and his wife to come too I don’t mind them they are okay. We bump into his 3rd friend at the event who I dislike due to him being a terrible influence on my husband.

But husband has drank loads but after the event wants to go out out. It’s our first night out together I’ve drove so he could drink he got to see all his friends at this even he got to sing dance and drink with them.

It was around 10 and I had said let’s go home to our baby he said he wants to go for 1 pint and asked if I’ll be okay driving home myself. I said “we are going home you’re not going out now” I get in to my car upset and he comes over opens the door and is like it’s just one drink.

I leave crying and racing away. 3 hours later he’s ended up elsewhere didn’t even see if I got home okay or if I’m just okay In general. I wasn’t trying to be controlling.

He had pre drinks at 5 and drank the whole time at the event. I wanted the rest of the night with him.

This has really affected me because we’ve been married for 2 years and all I’ve ever asked for was communication and he’s mocked that.

Am I being too much ?

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How was this a date night? It sounds more like this was a night out for him and his friends, and he just added you to tag along for a ride there.

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Dates don’t include other people once you have kids

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With that said, he sounds like an apathetic ass, maybe biased but personally no tolerance for a lack of care

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This is bullshit. I would be so upset

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First date night gone wrong ?

I was looking forward to going out with him and he had even surprised me with and outfit (I had got him to book the event and I have been banging on about we don’t do anything nice and he doesn’t take control ever) I was so excited. He had got his mate and his wife to come too I don’t mind them they are okay. We bump into his 3rd friend at the event who I dislike due to him being a terrible influence on my husband.

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It was around 10 and I had said let’s go home to our baby he said he wants to go for 1 pint and asked if I’ll be okay driving home myself. I said “we are going home you’re not going out now” I get in to my car upset and he comes over opens the door and is like it’s just one drink.

I leave crying and racing away. 3 hours later he’s ended up elsewhere didn’t even see if I got home okay or if I’m just okay In general. I wasn’t trying to be controlling.

He had pre drinks at 5 and drank the whole time at the event. I wanted the rest of the night with him.

This has really affected me because we’ve been married for 2 years and all I’ve ever asked for was communication and he’s mocked that.

Am I being too much ?

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