Me and my friend who is a boy been knowing each other since high school (currently both 27) and we recently started back texting each other. We been a little flirty over the past couple weeks with texting but no one has made that move yet. He is a shy person and I’m just ready to have some fun and stop taking life so serious! I’m just scared to make that move to be sexual and then it messes up our “friendship”. I mean if it did transpire to be more I wouldn’t be mad at that. He says he still wants to be with me. But currently I have a lot going on.
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For me, the best approach is a direct one. First maybe journal or think about what you want the dynamic to be. It seems that what is convenient to you right now as someone who has a lot going on and would like a lighthearted sexual relationship (since you don’t want to take life so seriously), is a fun sexual rendezvous, not a relationship and it sounds like you like him and are attracted to him. Since the messages are flirty, it seems like he would be down to take things further with you BUT clarify intentions. If all you truly want is something lighthearted, make sure he’s on the same page. Make yourself as clear as possible. Also all relationships change overtime. The friendship will definitely change because yall will be changing it. The question is whether or not yall are moving with intention and whether or not those changes are sustainable and mutually beneficial.
Hope this helps ❤️

Ask him if he wants to go on a date?

Suggest a time and a date to meet up and if he makes excuses then you know he’s not interested

"Wanna fuck?"