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I think I hate my husband

So long post but I feel like I’m living with a narcissist and I’m starting to lose my mind. I met my husband when I was 11 (in Europe while visiting my family home) I knew then he was going to be my husband. Obviously being long distance and being little kids, we didn’t start dating till I was 16. He was great, or maybe it was the honeymoon phase? He moved to Canada about a year and a half later and has been here since, I am now 27 he is 30. We have 2 kids together, a 4 year old & 16 month old … my kids are my world. He’s a great dad when it comes to the physical aspect but would he be great if I wasn’t there watching them all day, having all their meals prepped, bath time ready and everything else that comes along with kids.

I work full-time, remote but it’s still very high demand. I was responsible for finding the childcare and running around the town trying to find someone suitable. I do all the cooking, cleaning, appointments, paying of bills; anything that you can think of I do it … all of it. I just had surgery on Wednesday to have a cyst removed so obviously I haven’t been very mobile, but without my mom’s help I would have died of starvation, we probably all would have. He told me today to get the f*** up and stop over exaggerating. Constantly belittling me telling me to take a look at how I look, am I not embarrassed and much worse. Also been finding an immense amount of porn on his phone which is disgusting and it’s funny because not even one girl on those videos looks anything like me. I feel like I’m constantly being gaslit, stepped on, I’m mentally physically and emotionally exhausted and I’m not sure I have any desire to be with him.

I have 0 care for sex & even when we do have sex it’s all for him, nothing for me. It’s boring. My mom has been here cooking all the meals, cleaning, watching the kids and he’s for some reason still frustrated even though he’s had to do fuck all. I’m angry, unhappy & stressed but he makes me feel like I’m the crazy one. Without me the world would stop turning

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Come on now. You know your aren't crazy. Please stand up for yourself. Why are you allowing yourself to be gaslit and treated like a maid? This is your husband but he treats you like shit. If one of your friends told you their husband did all of this to them, what would you say? You know this is wrong yet somehow you are allowing yourself to stay. Because at this point I truly do not see a reason why you need to be married to him. He does not like you or love you. A man who truly cares for you would not treat you this way. Sure you may say, why doesn't he just leave? Because it's convenient for him. He has someone who will cook, clean, and fuck him and he doesn't have to do much. You don't have to be in this type of relationship. Since your mother is helping, use her help to find suitable childcare and do this on your own. Do not waste more years on this man. You are young, you can meet someone else who will treat you right. He should be ashamed of himself but he isn't. Why would he?

Staying with him is being a door mate for a horrible man. Eventually your children will see how he treats you and will think this is appropriate behavior

It’s him, it’s definitely him. I am sorry he is treating you this way. He’s just trying to bring you down. That is not ok. None of that is ok. ❤️

First take a deep breathe mama! And embrace a virtual hug from me
congratulations on your babies! I work remote too and can relate and think it’s probably harder
Im glad you have your mom and your work and can advise to start looking into separating for the sake of your mental health. Some men may be better fathers and horrible partners but per what you’re saying, his good parenting may even be bcos you are present. Its hard but you’ve got this. Sending some peace, love and light your way

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