Married couples…who handles car maintenance in your household?

Oil changes, tune ups, tires, car washing/vacuuming, etc

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And I don’t mean who pays for it. I mean like who’s the one taking the car to get these things done.

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Tune ups, tires and oil changes - the dealership

The car washing - the husband

The vaccuming - me or the husband

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Our cars require basically zero maintenance because they are electric. But we take care of our individual cars. My husbands is a disaster. Mine is very neat and clean.

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We discuss what may or may not need to be done to either car & I send him to take it somewhere if it needs to go to the shop. In general-most shops won't take women seriously & I don't have the patience to deal with sexist weirdos when I just want my car handled. Now in regards to washing or vacuuming? Both of us.

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Maintenance my husband (his is a mechanic)

Car wash him - I don’t like taking it.

I’ll vacuum it tho

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30% me , 70% him.
Generally, it's his area - he's got certain places he likes to go to but I've got the dates whrn it's all due and remind him if he's not booked it in

Both hoover and car gets washed at car wash or we have neighbours kids we pay to do it

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I’m the one who does it ALL here and it’s kind of strange territory for me. Growing up, my mom nevvvverrrrr had to. My dad (God rest his soul) took care of everything car related & I thought that was the norm.

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I do everything related to the car, as I'm the only driver in the family. Husband doesn't drive.

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I do my car he does his car

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Both of us but I worked with cars for a decade so tbh I’m the better one 🤣

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My husband is a mechanic, he better damn do it 🤣

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My husband because he drives it to work and drives it more than I do

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If it's something my husband and/or father in law can do, they will work on the cars. If they can't/don't have time, either husband or I will take it in. We clean our own cars.

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Take care of individual cars x

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Blue job in this house but everyhouse if different x

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My husband does everything. He even gasses my car up for me.

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I asked my husband months ago how close he was to needing an oil change.... long story short, I tried to let it be his own responsibility and he ended up going 3000 miles over, burnt up all his oil, and almost blew up his engine. 🤦🏼‍♀️ all he had to do was schedule the damn appointment

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I just drive, he does all the maintenance 😂 I took the car to wash sometimes, but the rest I leave him to do it, he is very passionate about car so for him is also like a hobby.

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My partner and my dad take care of my/our car even though he is not using it frequently.

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We both do but working on cars is literally our hobby so we do it together lol

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I book it, he takes it there. Generally that's how we do most things. When I'm carrying the mental load he has to do the actual task 😄

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I wash our cars, detail the interior and take in for oil changes. Any mechanic issues, my husband handles because that's a language I just don't speak!

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He does the oil changes and in charge of tires. I do jumps, and engine maintenence like testing batteries and checking oil

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I only vacuum, he does everything else

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I schedule the car maintenance and she takes it in and pays for it. When the family car is at a half tank she goes to fill it to make sure its always full. If it needs a wash she takes it or of i say the inside needs cleaning she will do it sometime during the weekend. I only drive it when shes not with me...when shes with me then she drives it and I just feed her snacks. She even let's me have the radio when shes driving ahaha

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We look after our own cars x

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