Married couples…who handles car maintenance in your household?

Oil changes, tune ups, tires, car washing/vacuuming, etc

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And I don’t mean who pays for it. I mean like who’s the one taking the car to get these things done.

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Tune ups, tires and oil changes - the dealership

The car washing - the husband

The vaccuming - me or the husband

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Our cars require basically zero maintenance because they are electric. But we take care of our individual cars. My husbands is a disaster. Mine is very neat and clean.

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We discuss what may or may not need to be done to either car & I send him to take it somewhere if it needs to go to the shop. In general-most shops won't take women seriously & I don't have the patience to deal with sexist weirdos when I just want my car handled. Now in regards to washing or vacuuming? Both of us.

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Maintenance my husband (his is a mechanic)

Car wash him - I don’t like taking it.

I’ll vacuum it tho

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30% me , 70% him.
Generally, it's his area - he's got certain places he likes to go to but I've got the dates whrn it's all due and remind him if he's not booked it in

Both hoover and car gets washed at car wash or we have neighbours kids we pay to do it

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I’m the one who does it ALL here and it’s kind of strange territory for me. Growing up, my mom nevvvverrrrr had to. My dad (God rest his soul) took care of everything car related & I thought that was the norm.

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I do everything related to the car, as I'm the only driver in the family. Husband doesn't drive.

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I do my car he does his car

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Both of us but I worked with cars for a decade so tbh I’m the better one 🤣

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My husband is a mechanic, he better damn do it 🤣

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My husband because he drives it to work and drives it more than I do

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If it's something my husband and/or father in law can do, they will work on the cars. If they can't/don't have time, either husband or I will take it in. We clean our own cars.

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Take care of individual cars x

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Blue job in this house but everyhouse if different x

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My husband does everything. He even gasses my car up for me.

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I asked my husband months ago how close he was to needing an oil change.... long story short, I tried to let it be his own responsibility and he ended up going 3000 miles over, burnt up all his oil, and almost blew up his engine. 🤦🏼‍♀️ all he had to do was schedule the damn appointment

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I just drive, he does all the maintenance 😂 I took the car to wash sometimes, but the rest I leave him to do it, he is very passionate about car so for him is also like a hobby.

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My partner and my dad take care of my/our car even though he is not using it frequently.

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We both do but working on cars is literally our hobby so we do it together lol

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I book it, he takes it there. Generally that's how we do most things. When I'm carrying the mental load he has to do the actual task 😄

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I wash our cars, detail the interior and take in for oil changes. Any mechanic issues, my husband handles because that's a language I just don't speak!

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He does the oil changes and in charge of tires. I do jumps, and engine maintenence like testing batteries and checking oil

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I only vacuum, he does everything else

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I schedule the car maintenance and she takes it in and pays for it. When the family car is at a half tank she goes to fill it to make sure its always full. If it needs a wash she takes it or of i say the inside needs cleaning she will do it sometime during the weekend. I only drive it when shes not with me...when shes with me then she drives it and I just feed her snacks. She even let's me have the radio when shes driving ahaha

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We look after our own cars x

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He tells me when to make the appointments. I take the cars in, he pays.

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This really put things into perspective for me. Me me and me. 😭

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9 times out of 10 hubby books it in and I take it. Unless he’s busy with work then I’ll do both.
We’re pretty much 50/50

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I wash and vacuum both cars at home in the driveway every 2w coz I get a tan doing it and it’s “exercise” for me. He takes care of actual maintenance and insurance and rego payments. So I just keep them clean

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I vacuum it as he’s messy and I’m a clean freak 😂 we take it to get washed and as for maintenance honestly he hasn’t got a clue bar topping up the washer fluid and tyre pressure. Anything else would be at a local garage! X

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My husband but that’s because I don’t drive. If I could take the car to do things myself then it would probably be both of us.

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It’s split 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

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Saying NO to buying toys etc

5 year old is getting really envious of others. He is obsessed with items that other kids have at school. I am pestered daily to buy these things in a different style when we already have 3 others. I have seen parents just buying stuff their kid likes which I don't necessarily agree with even when i can afford it. How do you deal with it?

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Identity crisis?

Am I the only sahm who feels like they have lost their identity??? I don’t make money for my family, when I used to make great money. But I refuse to drop my under a year old baby off with strangers.
My husband works so much. But I have no control over bringing in money and I’m a control freak type of person! I feel l like I’m losing my grip because we are kind of broke, but day care would only eat up my income anyways! So what’s the point. I’m a workaholic and now I’m just a twitching bum.
I wish I could work from home but so far that’s a fake dream. I’m almost 9 months pp, and I just need to know these awful mood swings and depression will end soon! Send wine!

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Daycare?

Thoughts on daycare?? Truly, I am SCARED to be leaving my kid for daycare. I literally do not trust anyone, not even family (they haven’t given me a reason it’s just trust issues on my end, you never know). He’s turning 3 and I’ve been a sahm the whole time but tbh my man doesn’t make enough for us to move out somewhere more calm . We live in a ‘not so safe’ area in LA and I’m just not used to living here so I just want us to give my son a better life and in order to speed up the process I would have to work.. I do lashes at home and I’d be open to take new clients so I wouldn’t have to look for work but I’m just scared to lose my license 😭

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Thoughts?

your soon to be brother in law (upon inquiry) told you that only a few kids from the family were attending his wedding because they are over the age cut off..

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Tablet for kids

Alright don’t need any negative Nancy’s telling me not to get my 2yo a tablet so if that’s what your gunna do please don’t participate in my poll.

We’re about to move cross country 3+ day trip and my 2yo and 9m hate the car I’m talking scream their heads off till they are out of their seats. We’ve already changed car seats and it didn’t help so I’d like to at least have one entertained and sit next to baby and try and distract her or put her to sleep. Our new car has tvs but since they are rear faced my 2yo can’t see it.

Debating getting her a tablet or dvd player right now on long car rides I end up giving her my phone because I get so overwhelmed sitting in between both of them screaming and crying.

And yes I do bring different toys I bring snacks I play songs try to distract her other ways but for the sake of not losing my mind on this move I think this is best.

-A very overwhelmed and anxious to move mama 😓

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