How do I end this friendship

If you're willing to ghost her, tell her how you feel. If you lose her as a friend, thats no worse than ghosting her. But at least speaking up *might* help her realize something needs to change

Id tell her how I feel then cut contact. Even just to get it off your chest then block her before she comes back with a toxic response. You don't deserve that and don't need that kind of toxic behavior around you and your family. Wishing peace for you and future congratulations for you, husband and baby

Honestly if she won’t listen to reason then I’d just flat out stop responding or making effort. If she asks what’s up be like, “honestly how you’ve been acting lately is extremely triggering to me, I may need to step back for a bit” especially if you’ve tried speaking to her. Or brought up the bay shower and her speaking to your husband.

You have to understand how she is feeling but at the same time if she isn’t willing to help herself you shouldn’t have to fill yourself with anxiety because of it.

You don’t have to end it completely unless you want to.. but you are allowed to distance yourself no matter what.

I understand the feeling of wanting to ghost her! But before you dip I do feel like you need to have some kind of conversation just mom to mom. Postpartum can really take over your whole life if you let it. You don't have to keep her in your life, but she needs to know exactly how she's affecting the people around her. Hopefully it will help her make a change for the better for herself and her family. Good luck!

I had to distance one my besties coz of that too. She treated me like free therapy I was once on a Ft call for 4hrs and it was all about her complaining and her family drama, it got too much for me. Even down to her weight, she’d complain daily about that and ask me what I do for her to get down to my size coz she used to be skinny, I’d tell her I do ABC and D but she took no action to do any of those and yet invite me to an all-you-can-eat buffet weekly and get salty when I say I don’t go to buffets, I’m watching my weight 😵‍💫😂 and then goes w our other bestie instead. You can tell her why, or not, but women like that usually already know why they just don’t wanna make changes because you said she doesn’t take constructive criticism so I’m sure you’ve made comments or hinted in the past. I’d just distance give her some time maybe a year distance see if she’s better and regain contact then. You can’t help someone who’s not willing to make changes and help themself though.

Being blunt, post partum rage and post partum mental illnesses are a b**** and you never truly know how it is until you experience it people can judge and question ones actions but until you’ve been through it you don’t TRULY understand. I’d distance myself but talk to her mom to mom and tell her that you’re there for her whenever she needs you and ask if there’s anything you can do but in the meantime she is crossing a line by being disrespectful to you and your spouse and you’re not allowing that anymore.