MIL kissing baby

My baby girl was born on 2/17/26, my husband and I told our immediate family no kisses at all, wash hands etc. For the first 2 times his family visited they followed the rules and to be honest I didn’t let them hold her because I had a feeling. But since they seemed to be respecting it I let them hold her on the 3rd time and everything seemed fine. The 4th visit she came up to us and straight went to kiss her head, it gave me no time to respond. I got very upset and went upstairs with her. My husband followed asking if I needed help, I told him I was very upset and just said just drop it. Fast forward a few days and she gets sick. He refuses to accept it was from her, he keeps saying it was probably him. They wanted to come over for Easter and I said no, I am still very upset. She has been the only one breaking the rule, my mom was here helping me out with baby and the house stuff for about a month and she respected it from day 1. We have gone to several doctor appt and ER visits because she was not getting better. Its been over a week now and she seems to be on the mend now. My husband always gets upset because I get upset when his family does stuff like this. Any advise?

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You're going to have to be upfront with her the next time you speak to her, or you could send her a text.

Something like, 'Look, I don't want you to think I'm being over the top, but baby is still developing an immune system and we're being really cautious until she's had her vaccinations because we want to protect her. Please can you not kiss the baby and respect this decision because we really don't want her getting ill.'

Sometimes you gotta lay it on the line for people. You could even follow it up by saying that not respecting this boundary is gonna land you not being able to see baby. And then I'd provide a link that shows the risk of transmitting RSV and HSV-1 by kissing a new born on the head so she can't argue with you!

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I remember when I had my son I had to ask my partner at the time now husband, to let his family members know that there will be no kissing on the lips at all. Like ever never ever forever. They did get upset but as soon as my son started to get older and I guess they badly wanted to kiss him. My son was at this phase where he wanted to give kisses in the mouth. I want to say he will probably a year old already at this point. And they would purposefully ask for kisses and my son knew and would give them a kiss somewhere near the corner of their mouth but they would tilt their head a little bit to get full lip contact. Even if it bothered me a lot I didn't say anything anymore because my son was already past the fragile first months of his life. It no longer happens at all. But still irritates me when I think about it. I know there is still risks but my in laws are elderly and don't have outside contact. So I don't worry much.

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Since she knows the boundaries, you can always spam her with videos and articles about people kissing babies

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🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ this happend to me , I’m sorry She’s sick , i literally had to go no visitors until my baby was like almost 6 months I know that seems so insane ( she was born during covid ) and I just didn’t wanna risk her at all and my mother in law knows no boundaries when it comes to kisses she still doesn’t she has come over knowing she wasn’t well and kissed my babies , sometimes you just have to tell them either you respect my rules or you won’t be around until they have a good enough immune system, because while you are at home fine my whole house is interrupted and worried because my baby is sick 😐 I’m sorry if that sounds harsh I just hate it when babies get sick especially when it’s all because ppl don’t respect the parents request

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