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Im so tired!

Im so tired of everything. Ive tired of my fiancé. Im tried of waiting around for him to change. He treats me as if im bothering him with my every action. If I ask him to change a 1 diaper he answered with goans and rolling his eyes. He acts like because he works he should get a break when he gets home and he should be able to enjoy some time on the Xbox with his friends while I am still taking care of put 1 year old son. 1 night I got up and was crying from how tired I was because our son has never slept an entire night by himself. I have to constantly wake up to latch him on and feed him and stay up longer just waiting for him to fall back to sleep while my fiancé is snoorring right in our ears. I was crying so much and he woke up, asking me what's wrong and I responded with "im just so tired, im constantly having to wake up because our son is and im just so tired". He responds with "well so am i, im tired too". Implying that because he works him being tired is more important and that me being tired means less. He complains about him not being able to hang out with his friends as much. He complains if I ask for him to bath our son or to try to put him asleep. Im so tired of being a single parent in a relationship with him. Im tired of him.

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You really need to put your foot down with him make him know that you aren’t standing for it anymore just because he works doesn’t mean anything being a stay at home parent is more hard work than any full time job and he would soon realise if it was the other way round he’s being really selfish

Sadly i feel like i have. We just had another argument about it and i explained the importance of what i do at home with our son and why its important for him to do his part of the work. Instead i was met with " i guess im just that much of a bad dad" and so on. I financially rely on him and im terrified of doing it on my own. But as you said, i dont want to stand for it anymore and ive been being pushed over my limit. Im really starting to think of a plan to leave the relationship.

You need to do what is best for you and your son and I think it sounds like you are heading towards making that decision already. Life is too short to be unhappy when there is more likely someone else out there that will treat you and your son the way you both deserve to be treated, it is scary when you rely on financially but it will always work out, he is just a really selfish person and is trying to make you feel bad but in a way he is being a bad dad yeah he works and provides for you both but doesn’t mean he shouldn’t care for him either it’s not fair

I know you're right. Its truly not fair. I appreciate youre words, they make me feel more confident in my decision.

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