Birth control?

Is anyone here on birth control? I’m thinking about getting on some soon but kinda scared to. I have 2 under 2. And I haven’t taken birth control since I was 18 years old. I’m 31 now. My man and I aren’t trying to have a third kid. We are happy with our two. But I just don’t want all the hormonal shifts that come with the medicine.

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I've been on low dose hormone bc for so many years that after I gave birth I said I wanted time for my hormones to balance out and just feel normal. So I got on the copper IUD and so far I really like it.

I am in the same position. Im curious what other low hormone contraception people are taking and how that is going. I used to take the nuvaring as it was advertised as the lower form of hormones at the time.

I had the copper coil for 12 years and honestly was the best thing I ever did.

I know everyone loves the copper IUD, but I’ve two people in my close circle that it didn’t go well for them.

depending on your budget you might want to look up the oura ring. It would help track your cycle based on your body‘s temperature and other things I’m trying that out to avoid pregnancy. It partners with the app natural cycles

Ultimately, it’s what makes you comfortable 😊

Has your partner considered a vasectomy?

I had the arm implant for many years prior to being pregnant and only had it removed when my husband and I decided to start our family. I absolutely loved it! I didn’t have to think about it and the only side effect I had is that my boobs grew a little. No idea if I got it again now if that would happen, but when I first got the implant I was at a phase of life when I very welcomed the growth lol. I tried an IUD first but twice they couldn’t insert it because I was in so much pain, so if you’re not into an IUD I would very recommend the arm implant instead!

We just do NFP natural family planning. Tracking my cycles, pullout always and using condoms on my fertile period. Haven’t fallen pregnant since we TTC our last baby (conceived in first month w him) and NFP is all I’ve used since him for 6yrs now, we’re also done w kids and I’m just tracking. He’s looking at the snip but looking for a cheaper place since he got a quote of $1k and freaked out lol. I haven’t had hormonal BC in like 19yrs

Another vote for copper coil although it is bloody sore to get inserted so maybe vasectomy.
Ive got the cooper coil but once its out its hubby's turn

Why not get your tubes tied?

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Family culture difference on money

Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.

I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

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Hi everyone! I honestly have 0 social queues when it comes to talking to anyone in general. I definitely have a hard time talking to other women and making new friends. I can 100% relate. I just don’t like the idea of texting or meeting up but when I do I’m like “oh this isn’t bad.” Any advice? I also have a hard time getting comfortable and just feeling judged by other women😅 I’m also 19 so maybe making a change in this now will help in the future making mom friends/friends in general. Thanks in advance!

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Am I being dramatic? Im 23 weeks and my fiancé refuses to talk to the baby. He touches my belly sometimes but that’s the most he’ll do. I brought it up to him saying it’s important for him to have bonding time with baby while baby is developing but he refuses and tells me not to dictate his relationship with his child. Is this a red flag?

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I feel like I struggle so much with finding people I can be myself around. Before pregnancy it was hard enough, now as I mom i feel like im never going to have a real friend. Im an "alt conservative" ive always had dyed hair and I love tattoos though I only have one for now. Im a Christian, though I tend to be uncomfortable in church because of my social anxiety and ive never had anyone to go with. A lot of conservative people get nervous to talk to me because they think im liberal so they keep me at arms length and liberal people tend to freak out and block me when they find out im conservative or they'll push me and try to make me do things im uncomfortable with. I used to just smile and fake my way through social interactions but now its so important for me to model confidence in myself to my boy. To have my bright colored hair, because its just hair its fun it doesnt hurt anyone, but to praise god.

Hi Mums

I live in New Zealand and I’m really keen on finding a regular best friend to chat with. It’s incredibly lonely. I love Australia and I think it would be fantastic to have friends there. If you’re comfortable with long-distance friendships we could meet up in New Zealand. I also want someone to video call because I currently have no friends every single day. I feel really lonely because I don’t have a nice family. I just want friends to become family one day and of course I need to trust them first which is why I’m making this post. I just got married 🥹👰❤️